[miserable93]

It started off as a typical teenage love.Both of us liked each other and everything worked out for us and we ended up together.But then the moment we got into the relationship,the problems started.It was like neither of us could think of the other person before we did stuff.He would hurt me through his actions,he wud do something stupid but then come around and apologise,I would react to whatever he did.He always thought I had to let things go immediately and I always wanted to talk about it until the topic finally fades away.But then he stopped apologizing for his mistakes beyond the first few months.He would just not call back and give up until I wud call.
This was a crucial year for him from his career point of view and there was a lot of pressure.I wanted to be completely supportive but I'm ashamed to say that sometimes instead of thinking bout the pressure he is undergoing right now,I chose to make a big issue out of a few things.Most of it I wont apologise,cuz they were ones that meant a lot to me.But a few of those were truly not a big deal and I neednt have been over dramatic about it.But just as there were bad times,der was a lot of good times as well.He would do such wonderful things for me.He would waits hours together sometimes when I'm caught up in some last minute stuff at the university.He would do all that just for talking to me for a few mins.But then his mum came into the picture.
She didnt like me for some reason even though she doesnt know me.So she went behind both of our backs and got a few people to call me up and insult me.She also accused me of ruining his life and a lot of things that really hurt.Needless to say,those 'friends' of his took it a step further and added their own words into the mix.I want to say that they dont really treat him that great either and that he was sticking around with them cuz they have all been together since their childhood.When this happened,he stood up for me against his mum instantly and spoke to her about it.But it took a while before he got around to accepting that those friends of his werent exactly the best in the world.After a month he cut them off from his life.I felt bad,cuz shouldnt he have been clear right when it happened?Everything started falling apart at that point.He completely shut himself off and he barely spoke.I dunno how we lasted but we did.Around a couple of months back he completely stopped talking.It would be rare if we spoke for maybe half an hour a week.He wud sometimes not pick my calls and he wud barely text either.And then his mum came into the picture again.She again threw a huge tantrum,insulted my family as well this time around and threatened to do some stuff if we didnt break up.I have to confess that I havent exactly been a saint.I have egged him on with my behavior too.I screamed a lot and I made it completely obvious that I hated his mum.What really infuriated me was that she never treated him right,she has given him a hard time when he was completely sick and a lot of stuff.And now she was taking the same hand with me.But the thing is, I have said things I am not proud off.At the end of the day,the problem is he says he still wants to be with me.And I still want to be with him.But he refuses to talk it out and I think that unless we talk it out its not gonna work out.I feel neglected and whenever I try to approach him about it it feels like he runs away.He doesnt come on his own as well.So in the end I told him I wanted to be separated for a while and maybe think clearly.Oh,for the past few months the pressure has also been getting to him.He has been getting so angry that he completely loses control and he doesnt know what he has been doing.He doesnt harm those around him,but he takes it all out on himself.And I feel like I am completely responsible for his health and mind deteriorating. I dont know what to do.All I know is,if there was a way to work this out,I would take it up in an instant.

[Leed]

Do you have ANY idea why his mother dislikes you so? What started it? Had you met her before she started saying hateful things?

I can see why he's torn. He doesn't want to alienate his mother, but he doesn't want to lose you either. He just doesn't know WHAT to do. He SHOULD respectfully say to his Mom that his life is his own, and who he sees SHOULD be his own business! And he'd appreciate it if she would stay out of that part of his life. I'm sure when his Mom met his Dad, she didn't want anyone messing THAT up either! So she ought to give him a break. On the other hand, you shouldn't have disrespected his mother, regardless of what was being said --- even though she sounds like a hateful person. Just ignoring her would probably have been the best, as hard as that would have been to do. Maybe an apology would be in order? You might have to cross your fingers while you say it. LOL

If you're both in college, you both have a lot of pressure right now. Give each other some space and don't put so much pressure on each other. You don't have to analyze the relationship so much -- just let it happen! Have FUN -- don't make it such an ordeal! No one wants to sit down and TALK about it all the time.

Best of luck & take care of each other. God bless. Hugs, Lee

[miserable93]

I have no idea.I have never met her,she just knew I existed.I initially ignored it and assumed she was that way.But when she started going at it extremely hard,I lost it dat point.But yeah thanks a lot
I feel a lot better!I have been beating myself up

[Scotty204]

It could be his mother is overprotective as well. Some mothers won't let any girl near their sons for this very reason and will try to sabotage the relationship