shouting boyfriend

My boyfriend has a problem. He shouts at people. When we are in the car together, he regularly holds the horn for 10 seconds at a time, telling off other drivers. If someone shows him attitude in line for a movie, he might loudly lecture them.

The other day we were crossing the street together and he shouted at a woman in a car who didn't stop at the stoplight fast enough. I was scared and embarrassed so I didn't cross the street with him.

He then got extremely angry at me for not "hustling." The outing we were supposed to go to was cancelled because he was supposedly not in the mood anymore.

When I tried to talk about this with him he got angry and upset saying he is tired of my judgmental attitude and bored of having this conversation.

I do tell him pretty much every day or every other day that his anger makes me uncomfortable.

What can we do? We love each other a lot and have long term plans to be together but I'm sick of this childish yelling.

He claims he is working on it but I haven't seen any improvement!!

These angry outbursts are only a symptom of something more sinister. If he doesn't get a handle on it, in time it will become even more violent! He won't be satisfied with just yelling anymore. Soon it will be throwing things, and then perhaps striking someone!

He needs some counseling, and badly! I don't think I'd want to stay around and see what happens next unless he begins therapy! I've seen this happen before --- for instance to my ex-husband! HE wouldn't go to counseling either, and ended up beating my son & hitting ME. That's why he became my ex !!! You may love him, but I'd duck the next time he yelled!

Best of luck & take care!! Hugs, Lee

Sounds like anger management issues, he needs to see a therapist right away

I think you should take this as a huge Red Flag. I met my husband when I was 18 and he did /does the exact same thing, with embarrassing outbursts. Thirty years later, he has caused me incredible grief. If one day you end up disappointing him, he'll be the same to you - I guarantee it. You should seriously think carefully before making a life commitment or having kids with this man. You'll end up walking on eggshells all the time and changing the way you behave. His behavior will only get worse.