[isadora]

So my boyfriend is looking for a condo for us to move in together when our baby is born. But I feel scared confuse of moving in the reason I feel like that is cause I dont want to leave my mom. Im very attache to my mom. I get sad even though it's not far were she lives. I know its time for me to make my own family but everytime I think about moving out I get sad and start to cry.

[eskielover]

Are you sure this is really what you want to do with all the abusive treatment I've been reading about in your other posts about your BF.

Sometimes the best thing you can do for your baby is to keep her OUT of an abusive environment from the beginning & that keeps you out of the abusive environment & safe also.

If I wouldn't marry the guy, I wouldn't live with him either. The fact that he didn't want to tell anyone about the baby, tell me how irresponsible he is about his actions. I wasn't pregnant when I got married & saw some very irresponsible actions in my husband in other ways. I commented to my mother that I didn't want to get married to him.....she told me...'he'll grow up & become responsible when he needs to'.....problem, he never did. After 33 years of living in a horrible fighting marriage, I finally left 5 years ago. It was the best thing I ever did. We had a daughter in the marriage & he was a good dad, but his other failures in the marriage were too great for me to deal with.

Some men are what the children later call 'the sperm doner'. That may very well be the situation you are in. With all the fighting that you have had with him, & his whole attitude toward your family & the way he treats you......I would say that is loads of more important reasons NOT TO MOVE IN WITH HIM than just the fact that you have close ties with your mother.

I think your new baby & the care you get after having the baby will be so much greater if you stay with your family who TRULY CARES about you.

The way your BF didn't tell his family about your pregnancy....it sounds to me like even if he says he's happy about the baby, the truth may be that he's NOT & is definitely NOT ready for the responsibility that a baby brings to his life even if he wants to get an apartment & for you to live together.

Personally from reading your other posts, you are better off leaving him, staying with your family until you find a wonderful guy who really does love you & truly cares about you & your daughter without all the abuse your current BF is treating you with.