My Mother

The relationship between me and her have been at neck and neck more then I think she realizes. It's been getting even worse lately.

For the past 2 years it seems that she has yelled more and more, and lost her patience more and more. I get in trouble for some of the stupidest things ( forgetting a conselor appointment...), and it really makes me feel bad. I don't know if I'm the one screwing up, or if she is just too "edgy".

Half the time I feel really quilty for something I've done wrong, just because of the side she places me on. It seems I'm turned into the bad guy in the end when I felt in the beginning of the conversation/argument.

For example; I really, really, really screwed up on a lop while riding a horse. A bunch of the stable girls were watching my lesson, and I felt really upset. Why? I don't do well in the self-esteem area when I do something in front a few people. I know that they are judging me, and it really upsets me. So, anyway, I get i nthe care, and my mother asks, " What's wrong?". I tell her, and guess what, she starts yelling saying, " There's nothing to worry about, blah, blah, blah", but the way she takes 1) And accusatory tone, 2) The way she makes me sound like the bad one here, and 3) Never really makes me feel better.

When you talk to your mother (and she's said it), it's supposed to make you feel better, not worse.

She's done many other things, but this is a strikingly long summary.

Nowadays, I just can't wait until college to get up and out of her house.

Hi SilverGriffin

Sounds sort of like the relationship I had with my mother. She was never that outspoken, but same deal.

I'm sorry to say this, but even my moving out of the house this September into residence at university hasn't made anything any better. She's not going to change, she's my mother. *sigh*

Have you tried talking with her and explaining if she doesn't have anything nice to say she just shouldn't say anything at all? Maybe she thinks she's doing you a favour, by making you 'tough' to deal with the 'real world'. Sometimes (and please forgive me parents on the board) parents are oblivious to the pain they cause their children.

Hope you get things worked out, one way or another.

idea --aint saying it is right or nothing

BUT perhaps she is mad (hurt) FOR you but it comes out like she is mad AT you

i know u were only giving one example -- but in this one example --perhaps this is the reason?

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