[morningstar72]

So.. In my last post I talked about how I broke up with my boyfriend after 8 months and that the relationship wasn't going too well and all.

Well I ended it because he broke my trust by texting his ex... I lasted about a week until I decided to talk this out with him because I couldn't handle it.He doesn't love me anymore.. and I know for sure that he's wrong for me. So we didnt get back together.

The thing is we still run into each other at uni. And we pushed everyone away when we started going out and now we both have no friends at uni and only have each other. I'm surprised that after everything that happened between us that we can talk to each other normally. Is it wrong to be friends or just stay in touch or hang out at uni. I know its not a good idea.. coz someone will get hurt and i'm pretty sure it will be me.. because even tho we broke up I still want him to change and be the guy that I want him to be. Idk if I'll ever fully let go.

He's my first BF and the only guy ive ever loved. Is it necessary that people have to become strangers after a break up. I just wanna know what people think coz ive never done this so idk what to do.

[NinaNina]

Originally Posted by morningstar72

Is it necessary that people have to become strangers after a break up. I just wanna know what people think coz ive never done this so idk what to do.

I don't think its necessary for people to become strangers after a breakup. When my first boyfriend and I broke up last year, we did become strangers and still are. I find this sad, but I think that is best for us, especially because we are both in new relationships. But it depends on your certain situation.

Because of what you have said about not thinking its a good idea for you and your ex to remain friends, it probably isn't. Especially if you remain friends but YOU still want something more.

Moving on can be very very difficult. My suggestion for you would be to make some new friends at school, or maybe try and rebuild your old friendships. If the only person you are close with at school is your ex, it will make sense that you try to remain friends. So make some new friends, maybe go to school social events where you can meet new peope.

I wish you all the best, and remember really moving on takes time

[Perna]

You made friends before and you can again. Make some other friends. It's not "wrong" to be friends with your ex but it won't work, trying to change him. We can change ourselves, only, so can choose to adjust to another but not to have the other adjust to us.

[faerie_moon_x]

You don't have to be "strangers" but you should start distancing yourself and seeking out other friends. You can't really be "friends" with an ex like most people think. In the end that relationship causes more problems. Either one person clings to hope to get back together, you end up having "hook ups," or when you find someone new that person can be threatened by the ex, or if he finds someone knew she could consider you a threat. It's all very complicated and human nature tends to drive people this way.

My advice is don't be mean or cold, but do start to distance yourself slowly. It will also help you heal to make new friends and take your focus away from him.