Please tell me your story of where you met your partner and how it went

I met my ex at college and also my parents were friends with her parents, and her parents were also friends with my second cousins.

[NinaNina]

I met my boyfriend at a mutual friend's birthday party

As soon as I saw him walk into the room we locked eyes for a solid thirty seconds before I smiled and looked away. I remember the moment so well I remember thinking that he was very attractive and had amazing dark eyes.

We exchanged a few smiles throughout the night. I was at the party with a friend, and she was beside me most of the night. Then at one point she got up to go get a drink or something and he took the opportunity to come over and talk to me. He offered me a beer and then sat down and we started talking.

We hung out for the first time two days after the party, and started spending most of our spare time together right away...and have been together ever since

Aww, NinaNina, thats so romantic!

I met my partner online -well, kinda! We shared a mutual love of a dodgy old punk/goth group who briefly reunited and toured. The group set up a forum and we were both on it. A whole bunch of from all over the world when to these gigs and I met him at one :-)

[Chris0516]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

Please tell me your story of where you met your partner and how it went

I met my ex at college and also my parents were friends with her parents, and her parents were also friends with my second cousins.

I met my (ex)wife when I was about to start college. We dated/were engaged for 5yrs., married for 8.5rs, separating after 4.75yrs.. I divorced her twelve years ago.

I met my (ex)fiance in an online support group, 10yrs. ago., we dated/were engaged for almost 5yrs. before she ended it.

[Bella01]

I met my husband at work. We worked for the same place.

He knew right away that we were meant to be together forever. I wasn't so sure because I just got done with a relationship that didn't work out.

Our first date was lunch then supper. We've been together for 33 years and married for 31 years and it feels like yesterday that we've met.

[Leed]

Can I share? My husband died, but we were soul mates. He died 12 days before our FIRST anniversary! Obviously it was a 2nd marriage for both of us, but like I said, we were soul mates

I'd been a drunk for many years, and finally had had it -- I went to AA and there at my first meetings I saw "him." I didn't have a clue who he was. He had the most gorgeous blue eyes, and he was so honest and humble. He'd been sober for 4 years.

At my 1st meeting they toldl us that it's not a good idea for members to get involved in relationships until at LEAST a year after getting sober. That bothered me. What if someone snatched him up???

A bunch of us would go get ice cream after every meeting, and I'd always manage to finagle my way close to "him." Finally, rules or not, we began dating -- and after a year, he moved in with me as I had a house and he had an apartment. We lived together for 4 years before getting married as we'd both been in LONG-TERM unhappy marriages and we wanted to be sure. Finally on St. Patricks Day in 2000, we got married!! Five months later, he was diagnosed with terminal cancer -- he had treatment only to give him more time. On March 5th, 2001, he died at home, where I had been caring for him per his wishes.

He and I did everything together - we went fishing all the time, he taught me how to ski, he taught me how to repair things around the home, we redid the interior of our old home, and moved and redid the new home, together. We finished each other's sentences & read each other's minds. He WAS my soul mate, and I miss him terribly.

How did he die?

[Leed]

Cancer

Originally Posted by Leed

Cancer

Sorry to hear that.

[eskielover]

We are no longer partners even though we are still married we separated 5 years ago after 33 years of a bad marriage......

But we met in one of our computer classes at the uni I had just transferred to. We called it Leung's Computer dating class (it was a business computer programming class). It was one of those classes that had tables rather than the separate chairs with desks attached. He was sitting in the class already when I came flying in almost late like usual....long walk from music to the business building. I was a junior at that time & had just transferred to the uni after going to jr college to get my AA in music.....this was the point I was in the process of changing majors & had several music classes from piano proficiency & music history to trig & accounting, statistics & programming classes.....he thought what a strange mixture of classes. He was in his sr year & had all the engineering classes I had on my list to take in the future after getting through the pre-recs.

For some reason, we stood around after class & talked (it was my last class of the day & his also). By that point in my life, I had decided that I didn't want to be bothered dating any longer & was determined to get my degree & get my career settled & NOT BOTHER WITH GUYS or relationships....it was a waste of time & energy.

We kept talking for hours after class & found that we had some things in common & common likes like skiing, tennis, hiking, camping & backpacking, bike riding & misc. other things. After several weeks, we decided to exchange phone numbers in case we needed to talk about class work.

I am always really bad with names & realized that I didn't know his name & he just gave me his number without writing down his name. I was living at home with my parents.....got the call & told my mother to answer the phone & ask his name. Why I gave in & went on a date against my current thinking is beyond me....but I agreed to go out to a movie & then get one of those huge hot fudge sundaes after the movie....one of those sundaes that there's no way one person can crawl around....how embarrassing

We just kept getting together & talking for hours & he was a nice guy. He came over to my parents house where I was living & we visited & had dinner together & my parents liked him also. I met his family & he was the oldest of 4 (I am an only child). I remember going to his house & everyone in his family started talking to me all at once (his little brother was only 8....but really a cute little guy, but oh my gosh....everyone talking at me at the same time....I thought I was going crazy.....couldn't focus)

I wasn't impressed with his work ethics in the classroom nor his grades & I really wasn't impressed with his always bragging about how high his IQ was, but thought he had to be smart enough to graduate with a computer science major.....little did I know just how bad his bad attitude toward working hard to get good grades was actually a red flag toward other serious issues later on after we actually ended up getting married.

For some reason, we thought we got along well enough that maybe marriage would work out. We only knew each other for 4 months before we started to talk about getting married. He was graduating that next June & KNEW he was going to get the programming job with the bank he had been working for through college & that would mean a move to northern California (San Francisco). So we thought about getting married & then I could just transfer to the UC campus in San Francisco......but that company didn't want him because of his bad grades.....I started to really see his true personality....where he expected that he deserved things that he didn't want to put any effort into & his concept of spending on credit went against my value system & I decided that I really didn't want to marry him because there were too many differences in our value systems & even though he could talk for hours, he never communicated about the serious things that are important to build a marriage/relationship on...everything was superficial with no depth & there the omission of things in conversations weren't out & out lies, but they were in their own ways. But my mother assured me that "he would grow up & become responsible....he was just young at 22....& besides, the invitations had already been sent out"

Oh we.., we are finally separated after 33 years of all the differences causing nothing but fighting because I wasn't about to sit back & say nothing. We ended up with one daughter before I said....no more kids!!!!!!! & no, he never grew up & got more responsible. His niceness was ok, but it didn't cover for the other issues & sadly, all the bad things built up more than the good could cover & by the end of 33 years, it ended up nothing but anger between us.

Strange, but leaving him was the best thing I have ever done in my life. It was never the partnership that I knew that a marriage could be especially when the 2 of us ended up in the same engineering career....would have thought we would have had so much in common that there would be no way to mess up a relationship....but lack of communication about the serious issues was the final nail in the marriage coffin.

Sorry about the novel.....it's a difficult situation that continues to haunt me because divorce at this point in time is impossible because of the financial mess he got us into because of his lack of communication & inability to deal with problems......grrrrrrr.

eskie that's a sad story in its own way . . . it comes across as a waste of 33 years of your life on a man who you were not happy with.

My husband and I met at church. We were very distant acquaintances for quite awhile. Then we happened to attend the same singe's seminar hosted by the psychologist we both happened to go to (small world). We spoke a bit more there, but still were just friendly acquaintances.

He claims he knew he'd marry me from the moment he saw me. He remembers that Easter sunrise service where I was playing my flute outside for the service and he watched and listened from a distance.

Finally, he got up the nerve to ask me out. We were both attending a vacation bible school end of the week children's program that our 5-year-old nieces were both participating in. I was walking in a door as he was coming out and he just kind of blurted "Would you like to go out tomorrow night?" It was history from there.

He literally asked me to marry him on the 3rd date. By the end of two weeks we considered ourselves engaged. We told my parents at around the 2nd month of dating. My father's reaction was funny: "Well, I guess you know each other better than your mother and I did on our wedding day." It actually was true. My father asked my mother to get married on the 4th date. He was in the Air Force and only got to see her one weeked a month, so that was the 4th visit. She thought he was nervous that night and building up to ask her to go steady. He used to hitchhike from Dover, Delaware, to Lockport, New York, for those once a month visits. They married on the 9th monthly visit. Next October will be their 60th wedding anniversary. Nice story, isn't it?

Anyway, my husband and I got married at about the 9th month point also, but we certainly had had more than 9 dates. This year we celebrated 25 years of marriage.

[Confusedinomicon]

We met online 6 1/2 years ago and started dating 1 1/2 years after friendship.

He's my best friend and lover. <3

First love, first boyfriend etc. If it weren't for insurance and my psychiatric issues we'd be married already. I'm on my parents insurance until I'm 26 and it's just so much cheaper to stay on it than get independent care.