[lifeistooshort]

I have been with my partner for 5 and a half years. He has cheated on me, I also cheated on him. I dont know if I can trust him again. Im stuck I want to but Im scared.Help

[Leed]

You've both cheated on each other, so neither of you can trust the other. It sounds like this isn't a very good relationship. Why are you two together if you're cheating on each other? There must be something wrong between you if you both have to cheat.

[mommyof2girls]

To me, without trust there is nothing .......

Yes, I would feel like I didn't truly love someone if I was able to go through with the actual action of cheating. I suppose people will swear up and down that they do love each other, but for some reason cannot be faithful to one another. Perhaps it is not TRUE love, and instead is some form of co-dependence on each other. Or an obsession of some sort. Maybe, you are tied up in some unhealthy behavior that is disguised as love. You could spend a lot of time apart each working on your own issues, and maybe reconnect later on when you can both be READY to learn to trust again. It would not be easy though.

[faerie_moon_x]

I have to agree that it isn't necessarily love but some form of attachment that you have to each other. It is possible that both of you need to grow as people before you can truly be a good partner for anyone. Being in a relationship where you have both betrayed each other to this extent and destroyed the love is toxic. Without some serious growing and learning and forgiving, it may not be possible to fix.

People who say 'it is in my nature to cheat' are missing a key component: respect for others. It's a selfishness. Anyone has the oportunity to cheat. Refraining out of respect and love and compassion is part of being a good partner.

[Glowiebird]

You both can do better; find someone who brings you TRUE happiness. Whatever your fear is for moving on... you'll never know if it's worth it until you try. At the end of the day you have to do what is best for you.