[f0rever-unhappy]

How do I not let the fact that I haven't had a boyfriend in over two years bother me? Ugh am I ugly or what? Guys just don't seem to want me unless it's for my goods.. Which I never give.. Then get left. Ugh help? Self esteem crisis right here.

[Jannaku]

Hi there. Life can seem tough at times especially if you don't have a partner. I don't know what you look like but looks aren't everything and when the right person comes along he will love YOU not your looks. It's better to have a quality partner that loves you for the right reason and not just your "goods". Finding the right person can be difficult for some people but as long as you keep your standards and don't compromise who you are the right person will eventually come along. Believe in yourself and don't think that not having a boyfriend is bad. Some girls are so easy that boys flock to them for only one thing. That might suit them and the guys involved but if your not like this don't worry. Just remember its quality not quantity that counts. Maintain your standards and I am confident that the right guy will come along. Be patient and enjoy the ride and don't compare with other people. As I said believe in yourself above anything else; be happy with who you are and don't stress about the lack of "love". All the best

[brackenbeard]

I right with ya. I haven't had a girlfriend since HS. I'm 24 now. Just some one night stands along the way. Sometimes I'm really lonely I just wanna cry. I don't think we're alone. I'm certainly right there with ya. I'm willing to bet there's a person out there I can vibe with though. Somebody who accepts me just the way i am.

Here's to keepin on. Stay strong!

The problem with lads your age is their hormones are raging (no offence to those young lads out there!) but it means that there's pretty much one thing on their minds!

Dont take it personally when they leave because you dont give out, its just their hormones (and peer pressure to 'score') that makes em try someone else. You are being classy - its better to be alone than be known for being easy huh? Be proud of yourself, and for being strong not to give into pressure. Take your time, the boys maturity will catch up with yours soon enough '-) and you no doubt will have some lovely boyfriends who treat you well.

x

Originally Posted by riotgrrrl

The problem with lads your age is their hormones are raging (no offence to those young lads out there!) but it means that there's pretty much one thing on their minds!

Dont take it personally when they leave because you dont give out, its just their hormones (and peer pressure to 'score') that makes em try someone else. You are being classy - its better to be alone than be known for being easy huh? Be proud of yourself, and for being strong not to give into pressure. Take your time, the boys maturity will catch up with yours soon enough '-) and you no doubt will have some lovely boyfriends who treat you well.

x

I totally agree. I hate to say it but except for my first boyfriend (who I am still friends with...he and his wife... ), I don't know if I even remember the guys I dated in high school. It becomes much...easier? is that the right word? when everyone settles into their hormones and figures themselves out a little more. It's tough to be alone, I know. And I'm trying not to be all "when I was your age, blah blah" because I hated it when people said that kind of stuff to me. But it will get better, I can almost guarantee it.