[Edpsy77]

Can the Trivers theory on mating strategies be exploited by lazy husbands who want to be free from doing chores in the home? This theory was used to explain mating strategies but there is a core element in this theory that is considered fact:

Since women obviously invest their bodies during pregancy. It results in a social bond that induces them to substantially invest in direct care for their babies after pregnancy. As a result, women are more likely to be stay home moms and career women are more likely to perform a higher portion of the direct caring for their children.(i.e. cooking, cleaning, providing clothes)

So again I ask, if this is considered fact, should men equally care for their children? I contend yes. Even if I thought women had some innate disposition to nurture, egalitarian care is more fitted for our modern society. What do you think?

[catrules]

I feel very fortunate to have a husband who has a good bond with his son, and takes a huge role in raising him. We make mutual decisions. He works outside of the home while I stay home with little man, but he makes sure to spend special time with him in the evenings and always makes sure to do something with him on the weekends. We take turns putting him to bed every night. He knows that we both are involved in all aspects of his care. However, I know that there are dads out there who do not make the time, or have the opportunity to do this. I think that men should do as much as they can to be involved with their kids, even if the parents are not together.

I don't think it's just the investment women's bodies during pregnancy that creates a bond so they will also want to invest in raising the child. Someone has to do it. Women might be more inclined to, might have more instinct to do it. But yes we have more than well evolved past basic instincts for survival, at least I think so.

I don't really understand why we constantly go back to humans first instincts ( in a time when we really needed them ) to make excuses for ways of "being" in a world that no longer relies on these instincts. I think it's pretty interesting how we can always, say " oh well it's in a mans nature to do .... or in a women's nature to do......" , and at the same time we cannot even rely on our own instinct to know what to put into our mouths for proper nourishment, what should be very basic instinct.

[Edpsy77]

Originally Posted by Anonymous32507

I don't think it's just the investment women's bodies during pregnancy that creates a bond so they will also want to invest in raising the child. Someone has to do it. Women might be more inclined to, might have more instinct to do it. But yes we have more than well evolved past basic instincts for survival, at least I think so.

I agree.