[Ft1980]

he used to say I looked flat all the time. never showed any emotions and should mourne the loss of being mentally ill. What does that tell you.

[Leed]

I don't think we should "mourn the loss of being mentally ill" -- that sounds a pretty weird to me.

But how is he harassing you? If he is, you need to report him!!!

[kyouma]

i dont understand it very well, can you explain?

I have no idea what he's on about! But if you dont get on anymore, and I know its a royal pain in the so-and-so, move therapists? They're supposed to help you after all, not make things worse.

Good luck.

Your T told you that you were "flat" and that you should grief...for yourself?
I don't understand.

btw, how is T harassing you?

Originally Posted by Ft1980

he used to say I looked flat all the time. never showed any emotions and should mourne the loss of being mentally ill. What does that tell you.

Well, it tells me that he made the observation that you don't show emotions, at least around him. Emotions are a normal part of being human, and everybody has them. But it's possible for us to repress them, hold them back, and appear emotionless. And this holding back causes all sorts of psychological problems. The goal for everyone should be to be able to feel emotions and express them appropriately at the right time. I would assume he's trying to help you do this.

As far as mourning the loss of being mentally ill, I'm not sure. I would guess that he means that mental illness is a kind of handicap, just like any physical problem but mental instead. And it's normal for us to be angry about it. How could anyone who, say, lost a leg NOT feel tremendous anger about it? We need to recognize that anger and know that it's valid and normal and nothing to be ashamed of, and then get over it and find a way to live with the disability.

I don't see any type of harassment in what you wrote. Could you explain further?

I don't see harassment in what you have told us, just observations about you that describe your general affect and apparent depression perhaps.

[whatbeanbelieved]

I think perhaps what he meant by the "loss of being mentally ill" is that the illness in some ways can be a crutch, but it can also be a companion, you know? It can be this thing that occupies your life for a long long time. Kind of like a loved one who is ailing. The loss is of that loved one, say, when they die, or they stop being so ill and no longer need you. What do you do with all this time you have? How do you live your life? There is a certain loss in losing something that occupies your time - maybe he's just suggesting that you need to acknowledge this loss?

Also I don't know what you mean by harrassment, but if that is happening, REPORT HIM LIKE NOW. *nods*

[Ft1980]

I keep him on a timeline, in that I have contacted to see him again, but have done nothing about it. I wonder if he is now feeling flat or lost, LOL