[Suki22]

sorry, I usually don't post long posts!

so, there's this guy I dated over a year ago. he was nice to start with but wouldn't tell me his twitter name and then went off fb for a while without telling me, and I suspect something went down in Vegas when he was staying with a female friend. obviously he wasn't that into me but was too much of a wuss to break up with me so he treated me shabbily to make me end it. typical d bag. I honestly mourned it for like a day. I don't have any negative feelings for him unlike most of my breakups.

I went to a show the other night because I knew a couple of guys in the band and it was close to my home. Jeff #4 (obviously, I'm done dating 'Jeff's) was at the show. he lives rather far from the bar near my home and it never occurred to me I'd ever see him again, which would have been perfectly fine to me. I'm so neutral when it comes to him and I was thinking, hey, we're adults, so...

I walked up to him and bumped him, and said "hey! how are you?" to which he replied "oh I was wondering if you'd be here" because he knows I know the band members. my friend walked up (which wouldn't have been my preference but she did) and I said "you remember Annie?" and my friend smiled at him. and I was all "how are you doing?" and he said "long week," all while looking forward at the stage and not looking at me, acting really nervous and then he just quit talking and acted like I wasn't there. Annie and I kind of drifted away from him and started talking to some other friends. he left shortly after that.

at the time I thought it was funny that he wouldn't talk to me. I felt like at least I was the "bigger person" (hate that phrase even if it fits) by demonstrating that I could walk up to him and chat--no hard feelings. so why am I annoyed by this interaction?

The Smiths' song comes to mind: "rejection is one thing, but rejection from a fool is cruel."

I just had to get this off my chest. any kind, supportive words would be helpful!

I think maybe you're aren't quite over the hurt he originally dealt you and understandably so. The way he acted recently just sounds cowardly and pathetic and has probably added to whatever hurt you're still nursing from before. Maybe you're also a little annoyed with yourself at ever giving someone like this the time of day - i would try and put it out of your mind as best you can, think of it as like dodging a bullet. Let some other person put up with his nonsense, you deserve better and will find someone better. This poor fool won't be so lucky. Hope you feel better soon.

[layla11]

Well, he was a jerk. He turned away and just stared at the stage. How rude. You were the bigger person. I would be mad to.