[Sarah_Bear]

Hello,

I'm new to the site. Been searching for answers that I can't seem to find. Hopefully someone can provide some insight. Here's my story...

I recently dated this guy at my job. It was instant chemistry. We shared many common interests and always had fun spending time together. We dated a very short time (a couple of months), and I had developed very strong feelings for him. I was sure that he felt the same about me because of the way he acted (he texted me everyday, always told me I was beautiful, and that he was so lucky to have me, yada yada). Then one day, out of the blue, he broke up with me. He claims the reasoning is because he couldn't make time for me between work and school. It just doesn't make sense because I thought he really cared for me and if you care about someone then you make time for them, right? He was very vague about his feelings and wouldn't explain to me why he wasn't willing to at least try and make things work. It's safe to say that things didn't end well between us and we're not on speaking terms. Since I'm a receptionist, I'm forced to see him on a daily basis. I've recently noticed that he's been leaving with this one girl in particular every single day (they work together on a team and share an office). Is it possible that he's already moved on? Or could he just be trying to make me jealous for whatever reason? Why would he even act this way if things were going so well between us? After all I wasn't the one who wanted things to end and I hadn't done anything wrong...

Thanks for reading.

[Scotty204]

There is a strong possibility that he likes or fell for the other girl and didn't want to "cheat" so he broke it off...Either that or he got spooked somehow. It hurts I'm sure but at least he broke it off before seeing someone else if that is in fact what's going on. I also think the reasoning is questionable too

[Roukan]

Sarah,

I am sorry you got your feelings hurt, we all know how that feels. Judging by what you said, it don't appear that he cares for you anymore. If he would break things off just like that, you don't "need" him anyway. The fastest way to get over one, is the next one. I like to believe everything happens for a reason, it could be a good thing you're no longer with him. Find someone that really cares for you and wants to be with you. There are plenty of fish. I know this may sound funny, you should carry yourself as if you are the luckiest person alive and just won a million dollars. Especially, when ole lover boy is around.

[Leed]

I think I have to agree with Scotty. He either fell for that girl, or else he's just always walking out with her to make you think that he HAS moved on. But whatever, his reasoning is certainly questionable to say the least! He should have manned up and told you the truth! Leaving it like this stinks. It makes him look like an idiot -- which he obviously IS.

I hate to say you're "better off" because I don't know that. I'm sorry you're hurting. These things are never pleasant, but the old cliche' that time heals is true. Time DOES heal the wounds, but the waiting is a killer. All I can tell you is to keep busy, go out with friends, and perhaps read or get involved in a hobby, etc.

God bless and you'll be in my prayers. Take care. Hugs, Lee