[Secretum]

I'm in love with my best friend. I asked her out 2 months ago, and was turned down. She "didn't like me romantically, and didn't want to lead me on". However, I suspect that she does actually like me, and is afraid to admit it to herself/have to deal with being in a lesbian relationship. Here are some of the reasons why I think she might have feelings for me:

-She laughs at my jokes, even when they're not funny
-She finds excuses to touch/poke me
-We talk everyday about everything
-whenever I say something flirty about us, she laughs like it's the funniest thing she has ever heard
-She plays with her ring when she talks to me (I read somewhere that this is a sign of attraction).
-We normally spend time one-on-one. However, one time I asked another girl to join us for dinner and my crush seemed upset about having to share my attention
-If for some reason we don't talk one day, she'll come knock on my door to make plans for the next day.
-when I don't feel well, she is there with a hug.
-I just have this gut feeling that she is attracted to me!

Here are some reasons why I think she may not like me that way:
-She doesn't blush around me
-She doesn't make eye contact when we talk (but then again, neither do I)
-When she is really busy, she prioritizes her schoolwork above me
-She claims to not have a crush on anyone right now
-When I asked her out earlier, she turned me down

Obviously, I can't take a multidimensioned relationship like our friendship and reduce it down to a written message. If you have more questions about our relationship, feel free to ask.

I was just wondering if it would make sense for me to ask her out again. Does it sound like she likes me romantically, and if she was given a chance to discuss her fears about being in a relationship with another girl she would be willing to try it? Or does it sound like she likes me as "just" a friend? If you were in this situation, would you try again? I really like this girl; I haven't felt this strongly for anyone in years.

[Die2dream]

In my opinion, when someone says they don't want to go out with you, you don't push it. I'm pretty sure she's just being honest with you. She can be close with you and enjoy your company without having romantic feelings.

[Confusedinomicon]

Do you know her sexual orientation? If she never talked about/never seemed interested in women in a sexual way it may mean shes primarily straight.

If you value your "straight" friend's friendship, you won't ask again ... That's one sure fire way to lose everything ... And, in today's day and age one true blue friend who will stand by you through this rotten mess called life is better than a dozen lovers along the way ... !!!

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Pfrog!

[Scotty204]

Maybe she just really enjoys your company which is a good thing to have. Unless she has given clear signs that she's into women or more importantly you, I say don't push it since she said no once already. It's not worth risking a great friendship