Satisfied with ONE - Poss or Not?

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LMo said:
wouldn't it make sense to discuss your H specifically, rather than keep the questions so general? Every man is different, and even if 100% od the men here at PC give the 'right' answers, it doesn't mean that your H will ever feel the same way. I almost think it is setting your relationship up with a dangerous precendent for you to feel reassured about 'men' if you are trying to regain your trust of your H specifically.

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TRUE............. and I am trying to do that exact thing.... but then again as my T once said.... I might have to heal my over all opinion about MEN to be able to regain the TRUST in my own MAN (my husband &amp; father).


LoVe,
Rhapsody -


P.S.

IMHO, and the opinion of other professional doctors / counselors.... in general men are men for they are made that way (and) women are women for we are made that way - and - with that we all have similar characteristics with in our own species due to who we are..... who we were created to be as male &amp; female.

SO, I guess that is why I ask this issue as a GENERAL question........ trying to see how others feel as female &amp; male..... but YES in the end my husband is my husband.... both a man and an unique individual human being.

Rhapsody, you're defining lust differently than I do. You don't have to have conscious thoughts for it to be lust. You can look at a person, even just for a few seconds, and desire them. That's what I call lust. But it's not important. I just want you to know how I'm defining it, so you understand my answer more clearly.

While I don't want to get into a religious debate with you, and I don't even believe in the Bible, but according to the Bible, God did create lust. God created everything. It says so in the Bible. When I was Christian, I believed God created the bad things because you can't know one without the other (hot water isn't hot if you never know what cold water feels like; it's just the way water is if the temperature never changes), and to test us.

Thanks Maven....................... "Its All Good"

LoVe,
Rhapsody -


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IMHO - lust is what is created when you look more than you should and the situation in which you speak of (to me) is that which is considered the natural look - the first look.... for we are all humans and attracted to others, that which is natural - not lust.

Yes, I know someone like that. For all his other faults, Jerry has NEVER been disloyal to me in that way. We separated after 20 yrs of marriage, were appart for 7, back together for 4, separated again, and he still hasn't had a girlfriend or any other woman's companionship.

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SeptemberMorn said:
Yes, I know someone like that. For all his other faults, Jerry has NEVER been disloyal to me in that way.

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AMEN! - GOOD for YOU and YOURS.... that is awesome to hear (and to know) - and while my husband has NEVER cheated on me physically in 20 years - I still believe their is such things as emotional, mental, and visual affairs..... and they can destroy relationships and love just as much as a sexual affair can and very often does.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

You are right, Rhapsody, I have seen couples break up over these things, it doesn't always have to be about cheating physically.

Love,
Zen

I think a good rule, when it comes to cheating (and I'm sorry; I realize this is off-topic, but it's brief), is what I've heard numerous times: If you're afraid to tell your partner what you're doing, it's probably cheating.

Even if you don't consider it cheating, but you know your partner would be hurt or angry, you shouldn't do it if you want to remain with your partner, rather than do it behind his/her back. If it's more important to you to do whatever you're doing, then don't be in the relationship.

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