[Denv12]

Hi.

One of the problems I've had is not being able to get into a relationship.Considering that since early 2000 I've had chronic fatigue syndrome (cfs) which is bad enough as I dont leave my home.So,I'm agoraphobic. On top of that its what the ocd had done to me since I got it in 2006.Doesnt really make me an ideal candidate for a loving relationship.

My post in the ocd section will explain how ocd affects me,I'm the aussie guy)


Okay,I'm single,51 years old.I'm functioning better as a result of my ongoing treatments not only for ocd,but cfs and my wellbeing too.I figured while I'm single I better start relearning how to date,how to meet women,etc so I bought books online from a reputable big company.There's a lot of books for us guys (and you women too).So I bought several.I read them from time to time.Its a refresher course for me.Sort of like cognitive behavioral therapy for singles.I enjoy reading those books.

What to do about relationships? I havent met any woman locally.(I'm from South Australia,Australia).I'm in a lot of forums.I'm on facebook.I post in an Australian school reunion website/forum.

I'm back to being my real self as the ocd is on its way out.I decided that ocd has got to go.I was determined not to keep it.I'm winning.Ocd is losing.I just stay positive that I'll meet someone oneday.You never know.There are men and women who meet under all circumstances even those of us with disorders.

You're welcome to reply.I hope you will.If you have some genuine advice please do reply.I dont mind.

Thanks.
I'll sign off with the abbreviation of my usename,Den.

[mazing]

Hi Den,

Welcome to PC! I can understand how getting into a relationship could be hard. It is fantastic that you are taking steps to manage your symptoms. I know that can't be easy

As for relationships, the best advice I can give is to hang in there and give it time. As you said yourself, people meet under different circumstances and you can and will meet someone, some day.

Also - akways nice to see another Aussie around! I'm from NSW.

[gary290]

Welcome denv12. My wife is agoraphobic also. My heart goes out to you. Hope you enjoy your time here on Psych Central. Lots of nice folks. Wishing you the best.

Gary

[Denv12]

Hi mazing.

Thanks you.I'm very grateful to you for replying to this post.I posted a similar post on anther forum.I guess its a difficult post to reply to.

Its nice to hear someone who lives in my neighbourhood.I have yet to find anyone here closer to Adelaide than you.We 've got rain here todays.Its great.I hope nsw gets rain there too.Your firefighters there need some help from mother nature.

I appreciate your kind words and your advice.I'm glad I'm on the right track.

Den.(short for usename Denv12(havent found out if I can use my first name here).

[Denv12]

Hi Gary.

Thank you.I understand how it would affect you and I know what your wife is going through.Its a terrible thing.

My posts in this forum are getting plenty of replies.Its an active forum.

Den.

[mazing]

Den, you are able to use your first name here. Probably just not your full name for privacy reasons

I'm hoping for some rain too! Had a little overnight but nowhere near enough to help the fires. The change is meant to hit today though so praying that things go well. Living in an area that often has fires it has been a very anxious few days with the extreme weather.

Again, great to meet you. Hope you can find support on this forum. It is a great place with some amazing people.

[Denv12]

Thank you.I'll start using my name.Hi.I'm Chris.

I love this forum.Its very active.I need that.

I've met some great people here.I'm in several forums and these people know how to be friends.I better learn from them.

Thanks again.

Chris.