[MudCrab]

Alex Lickerman is a Buddhist physician and blogger. Happiness in this World

In one blog entry, Lickerman discusses how marriages may be structured as companies. My first thought was how unromantic, followed by how little romance marriages seem to have these days.

The last paragraph is worth remembering:

Despite the use of these and other strategies, even the healthiest marriages remain in constant danger of failing. Truthfully, marriages aren’t just like businesses; they’re also like flowers: in need of constant watering. But—whenever you get fed up with your life and really mad at your partner, obsessively focused on his or her negative qualities, and find yourself gleefully fantasizing about leaving and finding a new partner at some other superior company where those negative qualities are absent—pause a moment and remember why you chose your current partner in the first place. If you chose wisely (and admittedly that’s a big if), you might just realize all the positive qualities you saw in the beginning are still there; that the virtues that made your partner such a great match for you in the first place still makes him or her the best choice you could have made. At least, that’s what always happens to me. http://www.happinessinthisworld.com/...ness-proposal/

[jadzea]

Such wise, wise words. There was once a time earlier in my marriage where my H was driving me crazy with his 'habits'. I was thinking about leaving. When I thought about it, I came to realize that many of the things that were bothering me were exactly the things I admired about him before we were married. I had to restructure my reactions to him. Life got much better and we are still together. Surprisingly he doesn't make me crazy anymore.