[brokenandalone1234]

Well let me start with this. My boyfriend and I have been together for five months. Well we have had a few fights nothing serious. Well the other day a friend of his came over and we were all chillin. Well then a fight broke out between his friend and I. Well he told my boyfriend that I had said some things that I never said. Well then a few days later his friend and a girl who used to have a thing for my boyfriend were in the laundry room of our apartment talking. Well today that same girl came by asking if my boyfriend was home. He is not he is at work right now. She hadn't came around since my boyfriend and I got together. Well it's got me worried that maybe his friend and this girl are trying to spilt my boyfriend and I up. He says I have nothing to worry about. I have been really insecure because this week I found out I had gained a little weight. My boyfriend's ex gained a lot of weight and he fell out of love with her so this is also weighing heavy on my mind. Should I be worried or am I overreacting?

[IowaFarmGal]

Hugs brokenandalone! There's nothing wrong with being proactive with eating right and exercising if you're concerned about gaining weight, but you need to do it for your own sake and not for him. I think there are never sure things with men even if you are married. Don't let the stress have you eating out of control like I do sometimes. Take good care of yourself and do what's best for you and your future.

[Leed]

You didn't ask her what she wanted when she came? I would have. I think she was awfully GUTTY to come over asking for your HUSBAND without telling you WHY. That's something a tramp would do in my book! A lady would TELL the wife why she was there, and what she wanted!!!

Personally, I would ask my husband MORE -- WHY did she show up, and what does he know about it. For instance, did he promise to fix something in their apartment or whatever? Why did she want him??? etc.etc. I'm insecure too, and that kind of thing would really bother me.

It's probably nothing. That girl is probably not very "nice." But I would tell my husband that I didn't want him going up there when her husband isn't home!!!!

Just my thoughts.

["Tilly may"]

just believe in yourself and dont rely on your boyfriend so much. You dont need him as much as you think you do. If he would leave you for this tramp then he is not worth it. Believe in yourself, i believe in you. youre worth it.

Originally Posted by Leed

You didn't ask her what she wanted when she came? I would have. I think she was awfully GUTTY to come over asking for your HUSBAND without telling you WHY.

I think she said boyfriend though just thought I'd add that *hugs*

i don't know if you should be worried, if they are trying to break you up, that's their problem but... if your bf is that easily taken away from you whether for that woman or other reason, then it's bound to happen and he's not the one for you. That's not fun news or encouraging I know but think of it this way, if he's one to leave you so easily then you should move on anyway and find someone that's actually going to be commited to you . Of course I don't see any evidence that that's what he's going to do, so likely it's a lot of insecurity that is at this point, baseless.

i would be upset at her coming over, like Leed said. Even if he's not your bf, and you know she liked him before, then it was rather bold of her to come by asking for him. Heck a random girl coming to see if he was home is pretty bold... I can understand it making you uncomfortable. If i t happens again I would ask her what she is doing or why she was there. Put her on the spot. That'll make it clear where you stand on that type of action and she may think twice next time before knocking on your door.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

I think she said boyfriend though just thought I'd add that *hugs*

not only just bf but bf of 5 months only

Great avatar, s4ndm4n2006!

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by brokenandalone1234

because this week I found out I had gained a little weight. My boyfriend's ex gained a lot of weight and he fell out of love with her so this is also weighing heavy on my mind. Should I be worried or am I overreacting?

what medications are you taking? the first thing to do is to determine whether medications are at fault