[GMC911]

I feel like i'm going crazy here... And I also feel completely alone in my relationship.. I've been dating this person for a long time.. We've always had strong feelings towards each other, but I feel so lost right now. Lately we cannot see eye to eye and I'm being told that basically i'm the problem.. What do I do ? I know i'm not 100% sane, but who is ? My other half is going through a very rough time in his life, and I don't know if I'm adding stress or if I'm getting blamed and what not because I'm one of the closest people to them? Ugh... please help...

[Leed]

Hi GMC ~ I'm sorry you're having problems. Relationship problems really hurt.

You CANNOT be 100% of the problem. NO one is. It takes two to make a relationship and it takes two to BREAK one too. So it's not all your fault, regardless of what he says or thinks. If he's going thru problems, he's obviously throwing alot of that stress your way, and it's not fair. I can see him sharing with you some of the problems, but NOT the blame! If he wants to talk about what's bothering him, that's one thing but to tell you that you're most of the problem isn't fair.

I'm sure you've tried asking him what the problem IS, correct? What does he say? Does he say "he doesn't want to talk about it?" Or does he just say that YOU are the problem?

You might see if he'll attend couples counseling with you. Many times that helps couples learn how to communicate, and it sounds like you two don't know how. It will also teach you how to "fight fair." Couples need to know how to do that, without hitting below the belt! So approach him about that. See if he'll go with you, as it would do you both alot of good! I wish you the very best. God bless and keep us posted, ok? Hugs, Lee