[chalicat]

Hi all, I feel like my heads' going to explode, I'm so stressed out. My boyfriend and I of 5 years are splitting up and I officially start moving out this Thurs. Some of you may have read my other post "boyfriends disrespectful child" which is pretty much the reason for the split. If he sees me crying, he'll say, "I don't get it, you're the one that wants to leave, so if you still love me, why are you leaving?" OMG, he STILL doesn't get it! It's like he can't understand human emotion or something. Because I'M the one that's leaving doesn't mean I'll be walking out the door whistling a happy tune. My God, I don't want this but I feel as though I have no choice. He keeps saying he doesn't want me to leave, but I've never heard him offer up any actual solutions to our problems. he still doesn't see the problem with his daughters behavior and how it's affected me. if he had offered family therapy, or at the very LEAST, just saying he would sit his daughter down and talk to her about her behavior, but not a peep. If he can't even see a problem that is so obviously stressing me out, how can we begin to fix it? I know I'm doing the right thing my moving out, but it's still hard knowing we will only be together for 2 more days.

I am sorry that all this is going on for you.. esp as neither of you really want it. But I do think that it will get a little easier with time, however long that will be. Sorry that you've just got to ride out the next couple of days and I doubt that there's anything that can be said to you to make it any easier.

I do know tho, that sometimes people will never say what you want to hear, and it leaves us with two options - put up or get out. I guess that's where you are. Am sure, in the long term, it will be the right thing for you. Just be kind to yourself over the next few weeks.

Hugs