[Tprice]

I've been running into the same issues with relationships since my freshman year in high school, I have Asperger's Syndrome and nearly every time I ask a girl out, they say the same thing, almost word for word, that Im a nice guy but they don't have feelings for me. When a girl finally said yes I realized I have no clue how to behave differently when being with a girl that I like verses hanging out with a girl thats just a friend. Recently I found out that this girl I know likes me and she made me think that we were going to get together, then said that it probably wouldn't work out because Im not experienced enough and now she's acting like she still likes me and has hinted that she may still want to get together but she's extremely indecisive. This has left me incredibly confused and somewhat depressed since she told me that she didn't think it would work out and it has affected my ability to focus on my classes, it sort of seems like I've been thinking with emotion, particularly negative emotion, for the last few days rather than reason. I guess my question is, what can I do to improve my situation with relationships? I've asked people for advice many times and have usually been met with either complete indifference or have been given information that made everything worse, and Im the only person I know who has this issue so it seems like Im alone in dealing with this.

Thanks

[Travelinglady]

As you know, Tprice, asperger's causes difficulty with relationships. Are you in therapy? I'm thinking that if you work closely with a therapist, then you can get guidance in how to respond to a girl in more than a "friend" perspective. I guess other people feel awkward about giving you advice.

That's my best suggestion, anyway.

[hamster-bamster]

And you probably need to find a T with experience in Asperger's, not just a random pick.

[Tprice]

Thanks for the advice, Im not currently in therapy but yesterday I made an appointment with my university's counseling center for next week because I was concerned that the depressed mood I was in would last longer than usual, considering it was probably the most depressed I've been in a very long time, which I guess shows my psychological state yesterday since I am very hesitant about going to something like that, I usually prefer to handle things myself. Since the depressed mood is beginning to subside I considered cancelling the appointment but it might be a good idea to go anyway, maybe they will be able to help me in this area of my life. And Im not sure how possible it will be to find someone who specializes in Asperger's, Im pretty much limited to my university's counseling center and I don't know the counselors specialties.

[hamster-bamster]

the student health center would have generalists only. but better than nothing