[angel79]

Is it just me or is it really hard to say the "L" word.

After years of marriage and being controled I have a guy who is understanding, careing, lets me be me, gives me freedom etc. I just have 1 problem I cant tell him the "L" word. I have been with him nearly a year and I know I do.

Is this common in survivors or just me?

I should imagine anyone who's been though what you have, will have trepidation about letting another in 100%. Give it time and be kind to yourself. I know some people who never find it easy to say, let alone a survivor. Perhaps if you can't physically say the words and he wants to hear them, can you write it down instead? Perhaps a card or something? I wrote the words on a sandy beach while visiting family, and photographed it with my phone and sent it as a message..

[angel79]

He knows I have issues with the that word but I find it hard to even write it at the moment. Tried writeing an email to him explaining how I feel but backed out of sending it.

Originally Posted by angel79

He knows I have issues with the that word but I find it hard to even write it at the moment. Tried writeing an email to him explaining how I feel but backed out of sending it.

Then just let it go. The more you stress about it, & put pressure on yourself, the harder it will become. Perhaps one day you will just blurt it out, and feel good about it! There are many ways to show someone you love them without having to say the words. Hugs