[jcl76]

I know both genders cheat, but the only reason I am asking about females because I was just with a female serial cheater. I know her mother said, her daughter felt I was the best guy that has ever came into her life, and she doesnt screw (pun intended) it up. She even told me when we first met after drinking a lot that she carried guilt from screwing over a gut she was in love with years ago.

So I am not asking to get over it, as I am, but now just curious if there is anyone experienced this before. I hope she does get help or overcomes it- one reason being she has a 2 year old really great cool kid. No father in the picture. My heart does break for the little guy, and we had a special bond.

That being said, its been 3 months since we split, she moved right into another guy before, and that didnt last long, and already on to another. Even though she has begun to see therapy again (we dont talk- but heard through someone else). I know she carries extreme amounts of stress, and burden for all the mess she leaves behind but goes on to charm the next. I have never cheated to I just dont get it.

People can and do change, but it is rare! That's why everyone is so proud when someone does, it amazes the rest of the population that it is possible. Good luck!

[Scotty204]

Based on my past experience dating a cheater I highly doubt she can change. It really is a chronic problem that sadly most don't want to change or they refuse help.

[hamster-bamster]

Absolutely, but it is idiosyncratic and completely outside of your control. You cannot predict what would happen and there is no way you can influence it, because it is not a function of anything that is under your control, and, for the most, of the other party's control.