When is enough?!?

Apr 08, 2013, 03:13 AM

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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

She gave up corporate America.

You gave up the restaurant career.

Does she realize that you, too, made sacrifices and suffered losses?

Funny thing happens when I do that.....
"There you go again making it all about YOU!"
She wanted to be a SAHM(stay at home mom) and I was MORE than willing to do that and did that for her.
We ran out of money and she was resourseful enough to make some money in network marketing and a couple other ventures.
I just got tired of how everything "was all about me" when really it seems that its all about HER.

Apr 08, 2013, 03:19 AM

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Originally Posted by BonnieG2010

can I ask you something Spirit?

i totally agree that she / you / everyone around must protect the daughter from these scenes.
by the way i hope you both talked to the girl about it and trying to clear that up as much as you can.

my question is: can't you just think and say 'yeahyeahyeah' and not attach any importance to the things she said.
you know, in some very wrong way she maybe sees that all these yelling takes you back into the relationship with her. Even if for the worst part of it, but she can 'feel' for few minutes that you are together again, even only in fighting.

do you think this could fit?

That makes sense and its sometimes still a driving force with her because she wants the good life back; back when I was working 100+ hours a week so she could stay home with our daughter. But it wasn't enough. She wanted more and more and more.
Now, when she gets upset, I DO say 'yeahyeahyeah' but you know, her words still echo around in my head and sting and bring me down still. But we are both working on it.
I Want to see my kid, so I dont care what kind of hell I hwave to go thru, its work it for my baby girl!

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