[GreeNe33]

HELLO ALL I'M NEW HERE.
Well, here it goes.
I have been married for 4 years and my wife has stopped doing things for us to grow together (Sex, being honest , loyalty,faithful, etc). she gets depressed and its real bad now, I normally just leave her alone and just move on until she comes around, this time I caught her cheating on me with another person plus she's LIEING ALOT LATLEY. My wife have hurt me enough and I don't want no one to get hurt seriously. but she's tearing my family apart and my kids aren't happy, we are going to be devastated if we do get a divorce. I want to save my marriage how can I win my wife back without lose my cool??

Some one please Help me. I need answers.. ASAP

Have you two sat down and had a honest conversation? Without yelling? I wonder why she is doing these things. I think you need to try and find out why - is she bored, unhappy, does she regret marrying, do you do things that annoy her, is the depression making her act this reckless way? Has she seen a doc for medicine or therapy? Is there any way you can go to marriage therapy?

Sorry to bombard you, but its hard to come up with ideas to help you win her back without knowing more. I do know that she has to want to save her marriage too, in order for it to work, and you alone can not make it happen. I'd try honest talking if you can, without blame or anger. Just listen to her and hopefully she will listen to you and you can go from there.

Good luck, I know it hurts shedloads.

[capsgirl19]

riotgirrrl is absolutely right, but if none of those work, there's always marriage counseling. hopefully it won't come to that, though. Good luck, I hope you get things worked out.

[Leed]

Hi ~ Riotgrrrl asked alot of good questions. You have a lot of thinking to do. You might want to think of counseling will do the two of you some good. Do you think your wife would be open to some marital counseling? It would be terrible to destroy the marriage and break up the family, because the children are ALWAYS the ones who get hurt over this kind of thing. The parents never think of that. I think she's being quite selfish -- but if her depression is taking over and keeping her from thinking straight, that's another issue.

See if she'll go to counseling with you. Then perhaps the counselor will recognize that she's depressed and suggest medication for her if necessary. I hope she'll go with you. I wish you the very best. Please take care & let us know what happens, ok? Hugs, Lee