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Grand Member
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Apr 05, 2013 at 09:04 PM
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I really don't know what else to say... its pretty self explanatory, the feeling isn't ALWAYS there, but it somehow always manages to resurface.. its hard to live with though.. (guilt)
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Apr 05, 2013 at 09:18 PM
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No reason to feel guilty. Of course it's very normal. We aren't all Buddha or Mother Theresa. Do you act on this feeling? |
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Apr 05, 2013 at 10:23 PM
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Just because we have a genetic relationship with someone does not mean we have to like or live the person, especially if the person has been abusive to us. So, to answer your question, I would say under certain circumstances, it is normal to dislike or even hate a family member.
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Apr 05, 2013 at 10:47 PM
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I dislike a few of mine .. It's ok to feel that way.
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Apr 05, 2013 at 11:01 PM
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I was just going to say what Payne1 already said.
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Apr 06, 2013 at 02:12 AM
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I would say it is perfectly normal...my guess is that you feel more guilty about it based on the genetic ties vs. disliking some other random person...which you basically say here.
Do you have to see the family member a lot? If so, that probably makes it harder. |
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Apr 06, 2013 at 04:32 AM
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I think we all have a family member that we can't stand. I have an older sister that I just will NOT have anything to do with. She tormented me all my life, and she seems to enjoy it. I just don't talk to her, or have anything to do with her.
So don't feel bad about it. We all have somebody! God bless & take care! Hugs, Lee __________________ The truth shall set you free but first it will make you miserable..........................................Garfield |
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Apr 06, 2013 at 06:39 AM
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"Dislike" would be a polite compared to my real feelings towards some of my family members.
It's normal at least in my family. __________________ .age: 34 female .bipolar I .psychosis .panic/anxiety disorder Seroquel XR 100mg Labetalol for high blood pressure
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Apr 06, 2013 at 06:50 AM
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Having blood ties with someone does not render them exempt from being disliked, resented or hated.
We don't owe it to our family to like them, simply because they are family. Especially if they are not worthy of our liking. |
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Apr 06, 2013 at 08:01 AM
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Yes.
And it's okay to not feel guilty about it. Of course, this is so easy to say, yet so difficult to do. I kicked my family to the curb 20 years ago, and I have found that as each year has passed, the feelings of anger, hate and guilt have subsided rather substantially. I still dislike them, though, and will never invite them to be a part of my life ever again. 
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Feb 22, 2014 at 06:29 AM
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Bit of a belated reply to this thread, I googled the subject and came across this and I did join last year which was a coincidence., I am glad I found it though as I am having some really strong feelings about my nephew at the moment. Well they've been bubbling under for some years because of some of the things he has done. It's funny how when you talk about a family member you don't like to someone, they always say 'But its your nephew, or sister, brother, mother', so you have to love them despite your feelings, and they can get away with it because they are related. But I have kind of put my foot down and confronted my feelings, and just lately he has upset me so much that I thought enough is enough. Luckily I hardly see him and he lives well away from me so having to see him isn't really an issue. I am also bothered because he is quite violent and my sister (who is the mother), has made a joke out of the fact that he may hit her. This has really made me angry. So glad that I don't feel like a bad person and I am not alone.
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