[Mylastserenade]

One of my biggest problems has been maintaining relationships..either romantically or on a friendship level. I finally found a romantic relarionship that I am comfortable in. I really couldnt ask for a vetter fiance because our lines of communication are always open. I am able to tell him how im feeling abojt our relationship, even if its negative and we work on the issues.

When it comes to friends, I am at a loss. I cannot maintain a solid friendship to save my life. I have no idea wjere to meet people. When I stumble into a situation where theres opportunity, I take it too far. Ill normally try so hard to make a friend that it is at the detriment of myself (to reliant, financially, etc)

So how the hell do I make good friends and keep them?

[patchwork5]

Not claiming to be any great expert at this, but - maybe start by imagining what you want to do with your friends? Swap recipes? Play games? Complain about your neighbors? Arson? If it's that last one, talk to your t, but for most things, now you know where you'll meet those people. You're never just "trying to meet people", you're always "doing x AND trying to meet people while doing it". Imagine anything good at all, and then imagine a way to do it with a bunch of people. It's slow work, but eventually it pays off.

Keeping them - well, I'm terrible at that myself. But I hear it has something to do with forgiveness, both the giving and the asking-not-demanding. Maybe try a lot of that. If it works, I'd listen to some pointers

[CantExplain]

I'm hearing you're having trouble being friendly without being overwhelming.

I had something like that. I could deal with intimates and strangers, but mid-level friendship was something I couldn't do. People found me too intense. I wanted to get too close too quickly.