[cpr56]

I am the youngest of 3 in the family. Parents had never put high expectations on me among my other siblings but turned out, I ended up who earned the success story in my family. Siblings always made things hard for me. my father felt my pain at some point but now, 1.5 yrs later after all that incidents, whenever I brought things up about them (the siblings) father would get disappointed, I apologize; father would call me prejudice, I'd shut up; father called my talk nonsense or either I'm not growing up yet. I just want him to feel my pain because until now, siblings still bad mouthing me to my parents and I try to stop em by talking to my father.

the siblings are 1 yr different, while I am 6 and 7 yrs apart from them. A lot of time, I was never included (especially in making a family business or other ideas to bring extra income) but when I had something good going on, bro and sis are ready to snatch the fortune away from me. One example, the bro ditched me out of a business meeting with the prospect partner and his reason was my existence in the meeting would uncover what type of background I have in the business. I thought it was reasonable, until bro told me that he would work as an adviser and I'd be assigned as a store manager. (yes, this is from my hard work looking for a business partner)

Anyway, when siblings found out I was pregnant with my second child (I'm happily married btw but like a lot of people out there we try to work our way up in hope to taste what american dream is); sis fired me right away from my job in the family business with the reason that I'm not focusing on the job because I was pregnant and I got kicked out of the house with my other child and husband 2 wks after I got fired with the reason of her 5 million dollar home needs another renter who can pay. I was left on the street without money and compensation. Then the bro didn't even wanna help me out at the time although he lived close to where we lived. . Bro called me an irresponsible person because I had an unplanned pregnancy. Long story short, 1.5 yrs later, father would like me to share my ideas on how raising my kids (I have very very good kids) and father would love me to share my fortune again in getting this job (recently) that allows me to work from home with my bro, because he is concerned about my bro.

But guess what? when my mother had to undergo a bypass surgery, bro and sis ran away and didn't wanna do anything with me since I was the one who stepped up and took the responsibility of helping her with recovery (so she stayed in our house although we were on food stamps) and I took care of mother's medical bills as well. One day before the surgery, sis told me to tell the hospital that I'm the sole guardian for my mother because I'm the only child she has and the only child who can take care of her.

I told my father about it but he told me that it hurts to hear me saying that and that he doesn't wanna hear my complaints.

Up till today, father and mother have problems. I'd took care of it for them. None of those two would but seems like father are more concerns about them compare to me who earns much less, than those two. Who is struggling mentally and financially. I just don't get it.

My income does not allow me to get welfare but we still doing our penny pinching to be able to spend money on other things , on the other hand, bro has a wife bring home5 k a month after tax. Sis, own a stock in a faimly business. I don't have anything other than this work at home job. What's going on with my relationship with my family? I am so desperate to figure out this for quite awhile now but I'm emotionally drained and I don't want my kids and hubby to see I'm sad. Any suggestions on how to go through this?

[Travelinglady]

Hello and welcome to Psych Central! I am sorry you are having such a time with your family. As the saying goes, we can chose our friends, but not our family. Alas.

I suspect your dad is feeling overwhelmed with everything and feels caught in the middle.

Feel proud that you are doing right by your parents, whether your siblings are or not.

I personally think it might be for the best if you can stay out of the family business and have your own things. What a mess!

Can you afford talking to a counselor about these matters? Of course, we are listening, too.

[cpr56]

Thanks Payne1! I never thought about my father being in the middle. I guess, I need to see it from his shoes next time before I make a judgement