[Fleury29]

I lack the ability to read people beyond the fact that I can see facial changes, other than that, it's a mystery to me. I've tried in the past to interpret those changes, but always manage to read it wrong. So my biggest question is how to tell if someone is not comfortable either with me, what I'm saying or doing?

Seek professional help if you aren't already. Hopefully you'll be diagnosed and/or given the opportunity to gain a better understanding of your problems and what if anything can be done to improve them.

[A Red Panda]

Try asking some people that you know and trust IRL. Ask them if you have ever made them uncomfortable - and then ask them how they tend to respond. Or just ask them how they react when they're uncomfortable in a conversation. As Spockette said - try asking a T for some help with this.

As to myself and my own interpretations: When I'm not comfortable in a conversation for whatever reason, I tend to try to change the topic and/or dominate the conversation. It depends on what kind of uncomfortable I'm feeling I guess. I'll also trail off in my answers or give brief responses that don't encourage the other person to continue. I also might actually "answer" a text on my phone, but it might just be me sending one to someone else to vent. If I notice other people doing similar things, then I'll try to change the topic and find a topic that I think they would like more. Or I would excuse myself from the conversation if that was an appropriate action.

I tend to just think of how I react, and then watch for that a bit when I'm talking to someone.

If you aren't sure on things like that though, try to avoid hot-topics like politics, religion, sex/gender issues, your bodily functions, etc. They could make people uncomfortable if they don't know you or don't like the topic.

[Perna]

Reading faces is very hard because you can't know if they have a problem with you or just suddenly thought of something that caused them to react that way. The best way is to ask questions after you register a change in both face and tone of voice, other body language, conversation, etc. If it is a big or obvious change, you just smile and say something like, "What was that?"

It is the other person's job to tell you if they have a problem with you or what you are saying, not yours to read their face and "interpret" them. Only they can know for sure what is going on with them. If a change affects you, ask them, "I'm worried that I've said something wrong that has upset you. . ."

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by Spockette

Seek professional help if you aren't already. Hopefully you'll be diagnosed and/or given the opportunity to gain a better understanding of your problems and what if anything can be done to improve them.

I totally agree.

You might be on the autistic spectrum with this.