[Quick Eye]

my gf of 2 years wants to take a break... she said shes just not happy anymore and that she doesn't know if can handle fixing our problems right now. shes the best thing that's ever happened to me. on one hand I wanna tell her im done bc im tired of being left. but on the other I wanna fix us. this happened 2 days ago. since then eating makes me sick. sleeping is impossible. and its like all feeling is gone..

what do you guys think...?

[littledolly]

Well I think 'breaks' in a relationship will cause more problems because trust issues will come about 'have they slept with someone else' is their someone else they like. I think you need to sit down and talk, listen about why the relationship is the way it is. Talk like adults and do not be tit for tat as this just ends in a war zone. Let you gf no how you feel, explain how this feels to you. Ask yourself this. Are you spending to much time together? Do you go out and spend time with your friends? Do you keep your spark in the relationship, going out for meals, cinema or maybe a weekend away? You boh need social lives outside the relationship you cant live in each others pockets or if you do socialize outside your relationship how does your partner feel about your friends? Is their certain things you do that irrtate her? Have you listened to why she feels like this. Sometimes girls will beat around the bush and not get straight to the point over fear of upset. If this doesnt work then maybe its not meant to be but a relationship is 2 way

[RoseBee]

Originally Posted by Quick Eye

my gf of 2 years wants to take a break... she said shes just not happy anymore and that she doesn't know if can handle fixing our problems right now. shes the best thing that's ever happened to me. on one hand I wanna tell her im done bc im tired of being left. but on the other I wanna fix us. this happened 2 days ago. since then eating makes me sick. sleeping is impossible. and its like all feeling is gone..

what do you guys think...?

I think you are depressed because you feel out of control and lost. I have felt that way, and I know I have made others feel this way. I am so sorry. It also sounds like you made her your world because she's the best thing that's ever happened to you. Give it a few more days to get your thoughts straight and prepare for any possible outcome. Take her to a restaurant where you can talk and say the following:

I love you and you mean the world to me. Obviously there are some things I am doing that is irritating you or something I am not doing that you would like me to. Tell me specifically what you want me to not do or what you need from me. I am willing to work this out because you mean that much to me.

[Quick Eye]

Well she shuts me out like she will harderly tell me anything so I really don't know how to react. I stopped hanging out with my friends cuz we'd always get arrested. I'm so confused its not even funny...

[Quick Eye]

Thanks for the advice btw

[mojo321]

Too bad about your friends. Maybe try to make some new friends?

As for the pains you are feeling, they are pretty typical of breakups.

There are two roads to go down:

1. Continue indefinitely playing the relationship game with her. Just know, that during breakups, it really does become a game. An emotional roller coaster. That could end in a really great relationship in a few months, or it could fall apart even worse.

2. Walk away from ALL the games. Which means letting go of the relationship and any resentment or jealousy that you may encounter for the next few months. This in itself may be what the relationship needed in the first place. So you will be a better person having gone through this, and more prepared to have a good functional relationship with the next girl.

In forging steel, the iron workers torture the steel by fire and hammer it. And cool it. Repeat. Every girlfriend and breakup is another cycle, making you a stronger more emotionally stable person for the next girl. Just don't forget to grow as a person from the experience!

[Quick Eye]

Thanks for the advice and support guys. We tried talking today and I snapped under pressure and got outta the car and started walking home then she fallowed me I wouldn't get in and she texted me minutes later saying she was done. When I asked if she wanted me to leave her alone forever she never texted back so maybe there's hope somewhere.. I'm gonna move to te depression section. Thanks again