Not allowed to have any concerns at work

Recently at the end of our shift, a coworker asked if I got something done, to which I replied fo shizzle. She took offense to that and said she'll tell my supervisor the following day. After work, I called my supervisor and tried to tell her in advance, but I nvr even got the gist of it out bc she didn't wanna hear it. All i managed to say over the phone was that the coworker wanted to speak to her, but I never got to the specifics before she hung up. Btw, she was also off work that evening. Just wanna know why she hated me so much that she would do that. I been here a year and a half and we got along prior to that night. We even got along during that day while workIng so idk what made her start hating me right after work.

The next day, I met her in person and was finally able to air the specifics, although she still didn't wanna hear it. Said she was too busy but was really just annoyed. Like fvck off kinda thing. Told me to let that coworker bring it up to her when and if she does. Said I don't need to get involved. And yesterday, when i asked my supervisor, it turned out that coworker did say something about the fo shizzle incident. But my supervisor said it wasn't a big deal since she didn't bring it up to me. Nothing negative. She also said that coworker prolly didn't know what the word meant. And then I'm not to talk to other ppl bc I've said slangs b4.

Tell me why my supervisor hates me to the point that I'm not allowed to have concerns at work. I couldn't call nor bring it up in person w/o pissing her off.

I agree that she probably didn't know it meant "for sure". She probably heard the "F" and an "izzle" and felt like you were being mean to her.

I would just be careful about using slang. Everyone deserves respect in the workplace. Whether they are above you or below you. Slang can be interpreted as a "one-up" against some people, which indicates a "looking down".

Also, if they don't get it, they feel stupid or embarrassed.

Some people use slang for that very purpose, too!

It's just best to stay away from it unless you have a very good friendship with the person you are talking to.

I don't know what the supervisor's deal was. It could be that your supervisor is not very good at interpersonal relationships. They may be a GREAT supervisor when it come to the job at hand, but CLUELESS when it comes to interpersonal relationships. I've had bosses that were so dramatic, it is a wonder they could keep their jobs. Best to stay professional with them, too. And that means not calling them after hours.

It would have been better for the supervisor, to say, I appreciate your bringing your concerns to me, but as of right now, I haven't been informed, of any concerns about you.

Yes, 'fo-shizzle', is slang. It's modern terminology, these days, used to be ghetto slang, but hey! It has crossed generational and cultural lines. I don't fully appreciate your co-workers reaction, but threatening to tell on you, isn't 'cool'. All your co-worker needed to say, was, could you please not use that term around me. And if you respected that, great. And then, if you did it, again, then your co-worker would have the 'right' to complain.

I get where you were just trying to protect yourself. Hang in there, there's growing pains in any job, no matter how long, anyone has been there!

First of all, I think your co-wprker overreacted. You did not say anything wrong to her. Why did she feel the need to report the incident to your boss? I was not raised in the area where I currently live. I purposely use slang and terms from where I came from just to get people's attention and be different. When people do not understand me they ask what I mean and we start a good conversation about language, etc.

On the other hand, you boss probaby had a bad day and did not want to get involved in a personal issue. If there had been a real problem she would have told you. You wanted to talk to her because you had anxiety about the situation and it is hard to just sit and wait when you feel so much stress. Your boss had no anxiety and didn't want to waste her time and energy on the issue. Next time just leave her alone and let her take the first step. Chances are you will never hear anything from her.

It turned out my coworker didn't know what the word meant. She prolly thought I was swearing at her. As for my supervisor, idk, maybe she's decided not to allow me to have concerns at all. Other ppl might, but not me.