Reasons

1. She paints her nails a lot and posts photos of this on facebook. I don't want to paint my nails, but I'm jealous of her ability to express herself or something. I feel that she is showing an interesting side to herself, and taht I don't have such a side.

2. She has had 3 partners since we broke up.

3. She has her own business now.

I go on her facebook a lot and keep track of her, which I need to quit doing I suppose.

And also her intelligence. I think she's intelligent anyway, she comes up with a lot of different expressions, whereas I am a lot more limited in that area. I think it might be because she has more social exposure than I have had.

[sans]

Dear Illegal,
I think you must be a creative person to come up with this screen name....it sounds like a punk or alternative band. I don't think pics of painted nails are that interesting to look at, although my young daughters do. I am not sure of your age, but i am guessing fairly young.
It is hard not to look at facebook to see what you are missing, but i promise you that when you stop looking at her, you will be able to see clearly other opportunities that may work better for you.
Letting go is difficult. For me, it takes very long. My wishes for you to make other connections, and find other healthy activities. I feel that will be a good start.
Sandra

[winter4me]

When we are feeling low, it is easy to see someone else, especially an ex, and believe that they are having a great life, doing all sorts of things, and moving on while we sit and "watch"---facebook, remember, is only what a person chooses to show to others...
And, yes, you should block her if you have to, for your own good. Not that you won't think of her and still have those feelings, at least for a time, or now and again for a long time, but it will be healthier to distract yourself from them rather than to immerse yourself in that "place" where she is "up" and you are "down".
Your posts have shown both intelligence and humor---I know humor often comes from a dark place but it is a wonderful gift, and coping mechanism. Take care.

[healingme4me]

How long, have you been separated? Sometimes, when it's a fresh break up, it's easy to try and figure out what went wrong, where are they now, and be a little put out, by the ease they portray in moving on.

At some point, letting go of wanting to know what she's been up to, is important, because right now, focusing on her and the past, you aren't freeing yourself up, to become involved with anyone else. Leaving you, emotionally unavailable to others that may come your way.

Hope you are able to look objectively at what was, what isn't going to be, what worked, what didn't work so that you can move to the next relationship that comes along.

[Odee]

Her having so many partners after breaking up with you is nothing to be envious of. She's obviously having no more success acquiring a meaningful relationship! IMHO, if she is dating a lot of men after you, there is a reason why she is breaking up over and over again.

And the nails are cute but how much does that really add to someone's well being?

and whatever, dude, you're smart. Don't ever worry about that.