[Cactus Le Sam]

I've kind of always been the person that likes to be alone as much as possible, but after I started dating and getting....well two notches for that belt....and i got a couple of friends that really are more just for hey im here to talk rather than actual friends. I never really had any friends until I transferred schools in 7th grade so I guess I didn't know the feeling of being close to someone until then. I had extremely high confidence and really laws, finances, and rather unfairly protective parents were my only limits to doing what I wanted. I got a friend or two dated a gal and after a rough break up after she left me for a kid who had just transferred to our school. I actually knew her for most of my life before we dated. Then i got over it. I got another gal a year later until i was forced to break up with her by my parents who really pissed me off by telling me that....really cant say things like what they said on here so yeah....but after that i was ok for a while and my confidence just hit rock bottom and continues to dig. since i broke up ive hit on one gal and got rejected pretty roughly and ruined a perfectly fine friendship. and my confidence continues to dig more as my one friend that i am actually close to im no longer really allowed to hang out with and my other friend would rather text me and hang with his girl. And my confidence digs even more as I read things about people having relationship problems thinking at least they have relationships sure they probably suck right now but at least they have someone....I really need some advice on how to actually turn my life back positive just so i can be happy again,

[henrydavidtherobot]

How old are you?

[Cactus Le Sam]

Originally Posted by henrydavidtherobot

How old are you?

Would it affect your response if I told you or didn't?

[Travelinglady]

Cactus, I have to say I am wondering the same thing as henry. If you are in college and approaching 21, then I am thinking you do have a right to chose your friends, unless your parents actually have some really good reasons why someone is not a good idea to hang with--i.e., a dope dealer, etc. (Over 18 is considered to be an adult, after all.) Then you could reconsider and decide.

However, if you are younger and still at home, then they might rightly have more say so. Did they say why these friends weren't the right ones for you?

Also, I am thinking you might find visiting a campus counselor helpful to get some feedback.

We aren't trying to give you a hard time, Cactus. I just want to know the circumstances, so I feel like what advice I would give is more likely to be appropriate. And I suspect henry feels the same way, although obviously I can't speak for him.

[Cactus Le Sam]

Yeah i still live at home i am 18 but i am still in high school. the reason they gave is a long story but condensed its that if he crashes here its normally for at least a day and they dont like that. Its not like hes slingin dope i had a couple of buddies that got into that stuff and i couldnt convince them to quit so i stopped talking to them and about a month or two later they got busted. What gets at me is that im not trusted to make a lot of my decisions. And i didnt really mean to sound mean in that post it was just an oddball question....or in my mind it was at least. Im really not supported in any decisions, and yeah....its just blah blah blah dont do this dont do that. I dont see any point in telling me what i already know when its been drilled into me since i transferred and made a couple of friends. I would still like a take on it and some advice please.

[Travelinglady]

Okay, thanks for answering the question.

Off hand, I can just suggest trying to reach out to some new folks. Maybe some other folks here can offer more concrete suggestions.