[cat_girl]

I'm new to this forum, but I thought i'd share on here. I've recently stared dating this new guy for a few weeks now and everything seemed great. We have a lot in common, we have similar values and goals, he treats me like gold, and everything seemed great. We were moving a bit fast, but it both felt like we were both into each other and we both agreed to date each other exclusively. The only problem is that he has been cheated on by past girlfriends, so he has a hard time trusting women. He seems somewhat private and a little closed off until he can trust someone, which is fine. I am very open and honest about everything, however, I had recently gotten out of a relationship and was vague about when I got out of the last relationship (on our first few dates), but told him the trust by the 4th date. I may have revealed too much information too soon about past relationship issues. Anyway, so one day all of sudden he tells me via text that he needs space and he's not in a good mood. He sends me a link to an old online dating profile I had set up over a year ago, that I had forgotten to take down. I try explaining myself that I haven't been using that site. All he tells me is that he does not want to talk and he wants me to give him space. Then he continues to say that he has his guard up and he's on the fence about us because he felt that I lied to him about my previous relationship but was ok later once I told him the truth, he found this old online profile, and he's afraid some of my past relationship issues will make me want to break up with him in the future. He knows that I am sincere and sweet, but he's been burned by sweet girls before. I know it's only been a few weeks, but I really wanted to make this work, but I'm afraid that I've lost his trust even though I feel like I've done nothing wrong, but be honest with him. How many days should I wait for him to have space? Should I send him an email in a few days or wait for him to contact me? I'm feeling unsettled about this whole situation.

[Scotty204]

He's dealing with some serious trust issues right now and speaking as a cheating victim myself I can tell you honestly that it will take him a long time to fully get over it. This is something he will have work through on his own. I would give him the space and wait for him to come around.

[turquoisesea]

I agree with Scotty - trust issues due to cheating aren't easily overcome. Listen to what he says, reassure him and explain where you're coming from