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Have you been adopted? Did you search for your bio parents? Do you still keep in touch with your adopted parents after connecting with your bio parents?
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Adopted here. Tried looking never found anything. Would like to know who in this world I look like.
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Do you have names of your bio mom or dad. My daughter was able to find them easy using Facebook. Her agents were young at the time and never married. More of an affair.
Of course depending on what age your bio parents would be they might not have a Facebook? I know I don't but then again I hear many over 40 or 50 have one. |
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I was adopted as an infant. My birth mother was young and wanted a good life for me (I know very little of my birth father as he left the picture soon after he found out my mom was pregnant).
I was raised with all the "stuff" a kid could ask for, in a fairytale kind of environment. Unfortunately, with that, came two adoptive parents who had no clue what they were doing and were very bad at communicating. About anything. And my adoptive mother was a spoiled brat and N. I knew I was adopted for as long as I can remember. My adoptive mother, for some reason, made a deal out of it. So when I reconnected with my birth mom, she was secretly spitting nails. I met my maternal bio family when I was in my 20s. My birth family welcomed me with open arms (they knew nothing about me) ... I was "so and so's girl" ![]() I learned I had 3 half sisters, cousins and lots of other immediate relatives on that side of the family...origins from the mid-west. I have a virtually non-existent relationship with my adoptive family...my adoptive mother pretended she supported everything, but in reality, she didnt at all. She considered me a traitor and an ingrate. She is a "victim". She cut me off, and out of the "family", a long time ago. She used/uses my siblings to get back at me for hurting her feelings. Last edited by Anonymous33145; Aug 25, 2013 at 05:23 PM. |
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yes I am. However, my situation is rather unique. My birth parents were friends of the family who were having an affair. I grew up knowing both of them, as well as 3 half-siblings, without knowing my true relationship to them. I didn't find out until my 20's.
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My mom was married to the sperm donor who left when he found out she was pregnant. My dad married my mom and adopted me when I was a few years old. I was told when I was in my 20's. I cried that my dad loved us so much that he wanted both of us.
I know the name of the sperm donor, but he doesn't show up on the internet. His brother knows about me b/c he was my godfather and I saw him a few times in my life, the last time was when I was 13yo, but he's known how to get in contact w/my mom, if he or sperm donor wanted to. Godfather and family are on the internet, but I have no need to make contact. I'm content w/my very small family. |
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Well looks like it is not working out over at bio dads house. She is back home now for better or worse Fer only 2 weeks. She ended up running away crom there Monday night. Police found her 24 hours later in a town 70 miles away at an old boyfriends house.
She will not talk about it and now even ran away from us. Not the first time she has done this. She is bipolar. Bio dad said he would still talk with her and she could come stay the weekends there. She will not talk to him. Don't know what to do now and she is almost 18. Thought this would work out for her and my wife and I were already dealing with this and moving on.
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I'm adopted. I was adopted when I was a baby (only 4 1/2 months old). I have never searched for my biological parents, and I don't really want to at this point in my life. I would like a picture of my biological mother, just so I can know what she looks like/if I look like her. Knowing/having a relationship with them has never been a big deal to me though because I was raised by wonderful adoptive parents, and to me, they're my real parents and that's all I need.
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I was adopted a few days after I was born in a closed adoption.
However, my birth mother was a supposedly close friend of one of my family members. We don't have any information on the birth father, as apparently not even my birth mother know who he was. I don't have to search for my birth mother because my real mother already knows who to contact to get in touch with her. I have wanted to meet her for a long time, but I don't want to rush my mom into contacting her because I don't want to upset her in anyway, or think that she's no longer my mom. |
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I was adopted at birth. My Aunt worked in a hospital and knew my birth mom. I have two older half brothers that were adopted by the same family. When my birth mom became pregnant with me she knew she wasn't gonna keep me either. By this time my adopted mom had been told she couldnt have kids. So my Aunt introduced my parents to my birth mother. Lawyers handled the closed adoption and my adopted parents didn't know if they were gonna have a boy or girl. I tried to find her but she had a very common name and I didn't know her birth date.
More than anything I wanted to meet my siblings.
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This is such an important topic and Im glad you brought it up. Its important for everyones own personal reasons but for me a lot of the problems is not knowing what types of health issues my biological father has. I was adopted by my moms husband and have (I guess) met my bio father twice. My mom basically refuses really to talk about him so its hard to get any info out. BUT we NEED to know these things for our health and not just mental.
I have been to the psych ward 6 times. I finally just told my Mom look you have to tell me SOMETHING about him. Was he normal when you knew him? Did he have any health issues back then? if so what? I found out that he is and has been addicted to hard core drugs his entire life, he has been in and out of psych wards himself, and to top it off after I have been seeking help for my problems for around 6 almost 7 years my OWN MOTHER just told me she has been in there because of her mental issues. This has never once ever been brought up when I call her from the psych ward crying..well Im hear again. And she wouldn't say anything to comfort me and I guess its because its a topic she wants to avoid. Anyway so sorry to ramble Im bipolar and am starting to feel manic and I cant stop my mind from thinking whether its writing or talking. May I ask if you are seeking your bio parents? If so what are you wanting to gain from this? I haven't contacted my bio father (Im in my 30's) and have just wondered what people expect or need if they find them. I do not mean that in a disrespectful way just curiosity. PS Sorry again for rambling... |
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Well now she ran away from us as well. She has been gone for 24 hours now. Police are aware. And she is gone without her meds.
My daughter wanted to seek out her bio parents. We all thought it would help her with her issues. Bio father is a nice guy. But it only took several weeks for her to run away from his family and home. She is now even worse. She will be 18 in a few months.
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