[Broncos38]

aganda?

All that I tried to ask is that she give my brothers more jobs around the house, was that really too much too ask?? I know they work outside the house, but they really could do more AROUND the house AS WELL, I know my 36-year old brother does some simple tasks around the house, but they aren't everyday chores. The kind he does is just cleaning the cat litter(an occasional job, which our dad does normally anyway), and shoveling snow (a more seasonal job-and depends on the weather). My 47 year-old brother(he had his own place before he moved back in a few days before Christmas 2012) sometimes helps with the dishes and laundry (he does his own, but he helps with ours when I'm not around-sometimes he'll fold the towels, but I've been doing that as I take them out of the dryer lately and sort my mom's clothes out of the whites.) I don't think asking for more help from my brothers is asking a lot.I love my mother & father and will be forever grateful for the times they were there for me through my medical problems, but I want to move forward with my life. If she truly wants me to be happy like she has said she does "Why the emotional road blocks?

Hello Broncos,

It's pretty frustrating when it feels as if not everyone is pulling their share around the house. Things run a lot smoother when the workload is divided evenly.

Have you tried to sit down and have a 'family meeting' with your parents and brothers, perhaps make a 'chore schedule' so that everyone knows what is expected of them? This can work, and it saves a lot of emotional trouble surrounding tasks and chores around the house. Would this be possible to do ?

I think confronting the problem during a family meeting isn't a bad idea, provided it's done gently and with love. If everyone sits down and is on the same page, without confrontation, everyone can walk away happy and the workload can be shared .

At my house, we just keep a calendar on the fridge, each day has a person's name and the task they've volunteered to do...this kind of goes as unwritten law and saves any emotional distress. Best of luck.

[Travelinglady]

Alas, you might be seen as the one to do the brunt of the work because you are female. Sounds like your brothers are being lazy. I agree that you need to speak up and say it's not fair. I just hope your mom doesn't take their side......

But it would be good if the chores could be divided up.

I saw where you were hoping to move out soon anyway. That might need to be the solution to this situation.