[Neper]

I haven't had a friend with whom I'd spend my freetime since elementary school. My last school friend was in junior high. Now I'm in the university and I rarely talk to anyone unless my school work absolutely requires it. I've got no acquintances and the only person I keep in touch with is my mother who calls me every few weeks.

I'm not really interested in exchanging my thoughts with other people and most of the time I find discussions extremely boring and pointless. I've done everything alone for almost a decade now but I never remember feeling lonely. Last summer I bought food in bulk and didn't leave the house for a couple of weeks. I felt completely comfortable without having any contact with other humans outside the Internet.

I'm not socially awkward nor anxious granted my social skills are definitely way below the average by now. I've got no trouble approaching other people but I simply choose not to. I have never had a romantic relationship nor a sexual encounter of any kind. Currently the only reason I could see myself approaching someone is to experience the latter out of curiosity. At the moment I hardly consider it being worth the effort.

I don't hate people. I'm usually extremely polite and formal towards others. This seems to be the best way to blend in and avoid being approached (and thus avoid any pointless interaction). I found that acting indifferent and/or rude only provokes others and causes unnecessary conflicts.

Lately I've started to do some self discovery in order to better myself. However I have hard time relating to anything especially when it comes to feelings and goals. All of my goals are currently related to economic success. I rarely have any strong feelings. I'm not happy nor unhappy - I just am.

What's wrong with me? Is there some name for this kind of condition/mentality other than extreme introversion?

[manwithnofriends]

It could be social anxiety. Could.

(I think I'm a worse case than you, I don't even know if I am polite two decades on since birth because I don't ever talk to people unless I have to either...)

[Neper]

I'm fairly positive it's not social anxiety. I had some of the symptoms of SA back in middle school. In retrospect it might have worked as a trigger and be one of the main causes for the way I am now. I'm long past that now though; I don't manifest any of the symptoms linked to SA.

I don't fear social situations. Most of the time I couldn't care less what the other person has to say. I've met few people with whom I can hold a conversation without being bored but even with them I don't like to talk for longer ten minutes at once. Social interaction is mentally taxing for me and I don't feel like I benefit in any way from engaging in it.

Social anxiety is linked to low self-esteem. I'm quite the opposite of that - I value myself very highly. I consider myself above average both intellectually and physically. I might have developed some narcissistic traits when it comes to the way I perceive other people. On the other aspects I don't fit nacissistic profile either. Even when I feel that the other person is inferior I still act formally and politely towards them.

[coleychi]

Not sure. Have you seen a professional about this? It could be introversion. It could be more.

I can relate to having few friends... I'm in college now and I can count the number of friends/people I hang out with on one hand, which is kind of unusual. While I am an introvert, part of me wishes I had more friends/opportunities to go out (although socializing is mentally and physically exhausting for me). But I do have social anxiety, which confounds my introvertion but it sounds like you're not socially anxious.

[Neper]

I haven't seen a professional. I do realise that I'm by no means normal when it comes to my attitude towards other people or social situations.

I don't feel that I actually need a social life nor do I desire to have one. If I did I would've made myself one by now. I do, however, want to know what causes me to be this way. For me life is all about effciency; I want to know myself so I can manage my life more efficiently.

I get approached by people of both genders regularly because of my looks. I also get sometimes invited to parties for the same reason. I usually turn these invitations down without a secod thought but in my first year in uni I decided to try going to a party. I didn't feel discomfort nor anxious attending it. I was simply bored out of my mind when talking to all those people. I felt that I was there to entertain them and eventually I made an excuse to leave early.

I feign interest when I'm dealing with others. That's the only way I know to blend in and not attract too much attention.

[Confusedinomicon]

Schizoid personality disorder. It just means you were wired to prefer solitary activities. I think its just an outlier personality because you don't experience anxiety from 'lonliness' or seek social interaction for fulfillment.

I think this will help?

[Neper]

Originally Posted by Confusedinomicon

Schizoid personality disorder. It just means you were wired to prefer solitary activities. I think its just an outlier personality because you don't experience anxiety from 'lonliness' or seek social interaction for fulfillment.

I think this will help?

I did some quick research and this is probably it. I can identify with almost everything linked to this disorder other than preoccupation with fantasy. Time for me to look into it more deeply. Kudos.