[blondefitt]

I've really been having issues in my relationship.
I know how to think positive (The Secret) and I know how to act so he wants me (Why Men Marry *****es). But nothing is going right!
Yesterday I went to a college football game with my best friend and we painted our bodies to be spirited along with two of her guy friends.
Once he saw the picture, he flipped out and said he was not talking to me until I get home on Monday. Parts of the text included "We are over." "I'm breaking up with you." This isn't uncommon though. My boyfriend is quite bipolar and jealous. I just don't know what to do anymore without telling him how much he means to me every time he gets mad at me.
We have been on and off for 2 1/2 years. I love him more than anything but it's come down to this. Asking a professional for help.
What do I do and talk about when Monday comes? What actions or words can I say to win him back?
When we were in high school, he was wrapped around my finger and now its the opposite. I just want us to be equal. How to I get there?

[jadzea]

It sounds like he is expecting you to meet his standards of behavior and live by his rules. It must be really hard on you not knowing how he will react to things and not knowing what to say or do to keep him calm. Think about your future. Do you want to spend the rest of your life dealing with a reactive person who complains about what you do and expects you not to do things because he does not approve? You have the right to live your life the way you want. You need to find someone who appreciates your uniqueness and enjoys watching you be happy. It may be time to move on.

[lsamson]

Hey Blondfitt,

It must be hard to be going through what you are, it seems like your boyfriend doesn't care as much anymore or appreciate you enough.

I believe that you need to lay down the rules with him when you get back. I think, in a calm manner, you need to let him know that you are sick of him being jealous for no reason and acting irrationally. Just make sure you say it calmly, and if he blows up you simply walk away and let him think about what you said for a while.

If it doesn't work out then that might be for the better, and if he realizes that he is in the wrong then great! You can take some control again and have an equal relationship.

Hope that helps!