[Caligirl78]

I am a bit confused about my friend. He and I did have a romantic relationship but it ended when he said he prefer for us to be friends. I agreed to that as well. We became the best of friends but every now and then he said he wanted us to become an item. There were times he would say he loves me misses me and I would say it back. I was there for him through his darkest moments his ups and downs. He lost his job I was there for him. He got in trouble with the law, I was there for him. I never had a friend that was bipolar until I met him and I educated myself to understand him a bit. Now here is the confusing part, he recently said that he was going to stop talking to me because he only wanted me as a friend but that I wanted more. He said he was unhappy and wanted to live life. He also said that I was doing witchcraft on him because he felt sad and unmotivated. I don't even know how to do that and I would never do or wish evil on him. There were times that he would call me just to say I love you and how much I mean to him. I only wanted him as a friend because I know that our romantic relationship would never take off because he was always changing his mind and was never sure of what he wanted in life. He would also go from being happy to irritable in seconds. Maybe one day he will realize what a good friend he let go out of his life. I am very confused. I do miss him because he is a great person.

[otroo]

I would give him the space he is asking for. I would personally not have any contact with him for at least a year meaning don't pick up his calls, don't respond to his texts just leave him alone. Now as I am saying this I don't want you to think I am taking his side and blaming you cause I am not I think you need a break from him also. Take up new hobbies and meet a new man. This illness we have really sucks. As a side note he might be trying to protect you from himself cause he feels guilty about the way he treats you I have pushed people away in for this reason.

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[A Red Panda]

Based on the fact that he's accused you of using witchcraft on him... I'd take a guess that he's possibly undergoing some psychosis. Do you have contact with his family? It might be a good idea to point that out to them as he might be in need of a trip to the hospital. I wouldn't bring that up with him though as he's clearly not in a state of mind to think you'd be trying to help him!

[healingme4me]

The minutes of mood swings, seems like more than bipolar. My comprehension (please correct if wrong) is bipolar swings good for days, weeks, months. Co morbidity with a cluster b, is possible.
The strong push, pull denotes, give him space, exert your personal boundaries of not being a participant. He seems to need more therapy, if he's feeling lost and hopeless.

Don't participate, in it, is my advice.

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[Lefty_Mac]

I'd say he's an F-31.9, severe with psychotic features. The best you can do is stay away; or if you actually have true love for him seek counseling. I could tell that you're here for him, and well, he's a pretty bad case but nothing to worry about too much that a good therapist and a psychiatrist (and again, counseling at first with both of you participating so you can convince him to treat himself). If he refuses treatment, then you'd do best to take a long break from him and see how things would develop in the future.

[Caligirl78]

Originally Posted by A Red Panda

Based on the fact that he's accused you of using witchcraft on him... I'd take a guess that he's possibly undergoing some psychosis. Do you have contact with his family? It might be a good idea to point that out to them as he might be in need of a trip to the hospital. I wouldn't bring that up with him though as he's clearly not in a state of mind to think you'd be trying to help him!

You are right. Right now he sees me like an enemy and we were best friends.

[Caligirl78]

Originally Posted by Lefty_Mac

I'd say he's an F-31.9, severe with psychotic features. The best you can do is stay away; or if you actually have true love for him seek counseling. I could tell that you're here for him, and well, he's a pretty bad case but nothing to worry about too much that a good therapist and a psychiatrist (and again, counseling at first with both of you participating so you can convince him to treat himself). If he refuses treatment, then you'd do best to take a long break from him and see how things would develop in the future.

I am staying away. I tried to be there for him but he needs to get professional help and that's something I cannot do. To blame me for things that he is going through is not cool because i was there for him when people let him down. Funny thing is that a few weeks before he stopped talking to me he thanked me for being there for him through his tough times. He said he loved me for that. I did what was right but I will never force myself into someone's life if they don't want anything to do with me. Thanks for advice.

[hvert]

I'm sorry -- this is such a hard, impossible situation, when someone we care about starts pushing us away based on some sort of delusion and won't seek the help they need. I have found that my friendships with bipolar people can often be renewed when they start feeling better. It could be 6 months or a year or two down the road, though.