[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Thought I'd just go ahead and get this thread rolling. By the way, ignore my title's blatant disregard for lesbians, bisexuals, or homosexuals, and just say whatever attracts you to someone in a romantic or purely sexual way.

[bronzeowl]

I like long hair. I'm a sucker for blue or brown eyes. Especially brown, though. On men, I like facial hair. Not too much. Just enough to have a 'scruffy' appearance. I like people who dress in alternative styles. Goth, grunge, punk, etc. I like nerds, too, though.

Beneath the surface, I like intelligence. Someone who can give me an intelligent conversation. Someone who can challenge me mentally. Someone who can articulate well. Because heaven knows I cannot and I like there to be 'balance' there. Someone who cares about animals. My heart melts for people who are sensitive toward lower animals. Emotions are kind of iffy. Since I have trouble knowing how to accurately respond to them (such as when to comfort, when not to, etc), I tend to gravitate toward people who aren't very emotional. However, I do appreciate sensitivity to an extent. And I gravitate toward people who understand that I'm simply not always that affectionate. When they're demanding of affection, I lose interest fast.

[Poppy Princess]

Pretty and petite. Eyes and hair can be any color.

[allme]

A genuine smile and honesty

[Edda]

Among other things... their ego... and a nice bulge...

[allme]

Originally Posted by Edda

Among other things... their ego... and a nice bulge...

lol!!!...

I'm game. Though for people who know me at all, or have had some moderate interaction, none of this should be all that surprising: "Intelligence and intellectual challenge. Sexual tension. Flexible thinking and adaptation. Tolerance. Honesty. Support. Taller than me. Like to touch and cuddle.
Can laugh at himself. A deeper voice is nice too, but not necessary."

...So that is something I wrote a while ago. There is flexibility with the height and the voice, and sexual tension can develop, as all that is kind of secondary to the other stuff- what I am actually attracted to.

And all that other stuff amounts to: are you intelligent, open minded, have a strength of character, can I depend on you for the important stuff?

Though a couple more things I'm realizing lately- I really appreciate when someone knows how to conduct themselves appropriately according to place, time, and company. I didn't realize it was such an annoyance of mine that my dates frequently haven't understood appropriate behavior in various settings until recently. Some might call that "being worldly", But it's not about being snotty, it's about simple manners... or not flipping the hell out under pressure I suppose.

And direction or drive.
Important.

I would think those are fairly common things, or did, until okcupid.
Ha.

[healingme4me]

Intelligence, confidence, and I have a thing for glasses and seem to have a thing for blue eyes.

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

I see this thread was moved - oops - no idea where I originally put it, but I thought it was under this forum. xD Thanks, to whichever mod moved it for me.

Thanks for the posts, so far! Interesting to see what floats people's boats.

[IndieVisible]

Easy, great tits and @ss. and yes nice legs too.

[widowlost]

Someone who's easy to talk to who gets me.

How in the world does this disregard bisexuals? Bisexuals are attracted to the opposite sex...otherwise they wouldn't be bisexual.

That being said...I like guys who aren't complete morons, who treat me like a person, and actually legitimately listen to and care about what I have to say. I also prefer an "average" body—not super skinny and not muscular. I also don't like it if they're much taller than me or very masculine (i.e. the less body hair, more effeminate the face, etc. the better). Oh and no facial hair—ick. I'll make an exception if the hair's just on the chin or something and nowhere near his lips.

So, as you can see, I've never dated a guy and doubtfully ever will.

[kindachaotic]

...a pleasant, kind face.
big boned, muscular, a little rugged, nice tan.
favorite feature, looks-wise, is muscular legs.
...am female & just described my hub. lol.

[LadyShadow]

Just someone to talk to for hours, who gets me. Love the bigger guys with glasses too.

I honestly cannot say definitively what I like. Is that odd?

[tokiwartooth]

I like older men, and almost all of the older men I've liked have had short hair, usually spiky, and most had some sort of facial hair, goatees are a big one. I like a really nice, round bottom, something you can grab a hold of. I love grey hair, or salt and pepper hair. The guy I like now has everything but the facial hair. Which is fine, he looks just as sexy without it. I also like a good attitude and personality. I hate arrogance. And I want intelligence. I want to be able to talk about things that I'm interested in without a blank stare from the other person. I don't care in the least about money, rich or poor, whatever. The guy I love doesn't make much but he is the most wonderful man in the world. And I like someone who has a sense of humor. I hate to joke around with someone and have them not reciprocate, or act like you've offended them. I don't care if the sense of humor is silly, sarcastic, dry, whatever, just have one. And please, don't be clingy, don't be a leech, I really can't take that. That will drive me away so fast. I've had clingy relationships and they've never lasted more than a few weeks. I love to be with the guy often, but he needs to be someone who can respect the fact that we all need solitary time as well. And not being overly jealous is great. A little jealousy isn't bad really, it makes me feel wanted, like seeing a guy checking me out and he would get protective of me, that is fine. I don't have a body size preference, I've liked guys of all shapes and sizes. Another thing I don't want is someone who is vain. Making sure you look nice is one thing, but going overboard is not ok. I would also prefer someone who is older than me because they are usually more mature. Usually. I'm not in it because I need some sort of father figure, and I wish my family would stop saying that, it makes me feel weird. I also like someone who is kind and generous. One thing I hate is a stingy person.

Also I might add the question needs elaboration. Attraction does not equate to who I would ask out or be interested in. There are ladies out there that turn my head - hence physical attractiveness - but I wouldn't even think of wanting to be with them. but outside of the physical, it's more how they hold themselves and talk, walk and behave. They can be uber cute and be totally undesirable and be somewhat plain and be a real catch. I'm just sayin...

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

Also I might add the question needs elaboration. Attraction does not equate to who I would ask out or be interested in. There are ladies out there that turn my head - hence physical attractiveness - but I wouldn't even think of wanting to be with them...

Well, I feel like we may be skirting around a similar notion in various posts: what we may find physically pleasing is not what we might be actually attracted to- please correct me if i am misinterpreting.

This is something I encounter all the time.

I can find someone pleasing to look at but not really be attracted to them at all, which is a common occurrence. I mentioned elsewhere on the board, in a discussion of comparative attractiveness levels, [something about the poster feeling they were a specific "level" of attractiveness but only being attracted to people they feel are much more attractive than they are] that I am very rarely attracted to an individual without some sort of interaction first.
But again, what I am attracted to becomes then something I am physically pleased by... and on and on goes the entanglement.

And you mention this, s4ndm4n200:

but outside of the physical, it's more how they hold themselves and talk, walk and behave. They can be uber cute and be totally undesirable and be somewhat plain and be a real catch...

I completely agree.
Which is also why pictures, though they can give one an idea, do little for me.
Animation, speech, a sense of someone's presence- all very important in attraction... though not necessary in deeming if someone looks pretty.

Originally Posted by JosieTheGirl

I completely agree.
Which is also why pictures, though they can give one an idea, do little for me.
Animation, speech, a sense of someone's presence- all very important in attraction... though not necessary in deeming if someone looks pretty.

Seems we are on the same page.. Mind changing it by the way? i'm done reading that one jkjk

on pictures Oh I can find pictures very alluring and really be attracted on one level... I mean yes, they do DO something for me.. but as for whether I'd look at a picture and just say "ohh wow, I'd like to have her, date her, marry her... be with her" that's a whole idea that doesn't even begin to enter my mind.