[ttcomm2010]

how do I deal with an adult daughter 37 years old that is obbessed and in love with her father.......

me and her father have been dating for 3 years, I have a two year protection order against her, she has been stalking and harassing me for the last two years, I found out that I am not the 1st women or person in her fathers life that she has bothered, I am the 1st one she has went this far with because I have not left her father alone.

she writes him love letters and does not want him to have any type of close relationships with anyone but her. they are now astranged, he has not went around her alone in the last two years, because of things she has done and in appropriate behavior she has towards him.

she has went so far as to file apolice report saying I molested her 12 year old son and wanted me arrest. Posting on social media that I have aids and I molested her child. All of which are false and no charges where filed and and reports demised with police and children services stating they felt the mother filed the complaint under false pretense.

what do I do, better yet what does the father do he is caught in the middle.

[CedarS]

You are in a tough situation.

Both you and husband need a therapist or social worker to regularly check in with, they can help remind you both how to take good care of yourselves during this stressful time, also how to protect yourselves from this person.

Your husband doesn't need to be caught in the middle at all. He can continue to set healthy boundaries.

You can pull together a support team: a police contact, therapist, attorney, mental health workers - whatever needed to help keep you safe. Make sure to keep notes on anything that happens.

If possible you might want to even take a break from any social media where she is. Don't respond to her, don't engage.