[ferrari121]

I been married for three years and in those three years I been separated for 5 times and in those 5 times my wife has insulted me, name calling, insulted my parents and i do not mean she telling me stuff about them, she insulting my parent in person. it has got to the point that the last two times she has slap me, scratch me leaving me a scar on my arm. Every time she does this after a couple of days she tries to call me, text me and got in her knees saying she is sorry and she will never do that again. and I always fall for that and even this time i started falling for that like now we text and talk. is this just a manipulation of hers to get me back or will she be saying the truth about changing. we are young i am 24 she is 23 and I dont drink, smoke or even go out with friends because she says i will leave her by her self and thats bad. I even work full time and went to school full time to get my bachelors degree to provide a better life for us. we have no kids and that is why I am asking this question should I keep talking to her and start forgiving her or should I just get out of the relationship before is to late. Also sometimes I feel like I have fear of being lonely and thinking that other woman will not want to be with me and not able to be on another relationship later on is this normal?

PLEASE NEED REALLY GOOD ADVICE

[pegasus]

Hello ferrari121, welcome to Psych Central.

It certainly does not sound like a healthy relationship to be in. Looks like there is a pattern of your wife abusing you, physical and emotional abuse from would you have described here. You could try couples counselling if you wanted to try and make a go of it, in any case I think you need therapy for yourself so that you can get some self-esteem back. I can't tell you what to do but I am concerned that you even want to stay with someone that is abusing you...

[gayleggg]

i agree with Pegasus about getting counseling for yourself. This is an abusive relationship and you deserve better.

[roads]

You don't sound like you need to worry about being alone all your life if you leave her. She's sick--if she doesn't realize that and is focused on blaming you, I'd leave. Cut bait now.
Do it fast, clean, and complete--don't look back. It might be the wake up call she needs (that's not your problem), and you need to get on with your life. Best wishes.
Roadie

[henrydavidtherobot]

It's unhealthy; get out. Unhealthy relationships tend to get even more unhealthy with time.

[SilverNeurotic]

Pegasus have you some great advice. Perhaps your wife does want to change...but it mostly sounds as if she is just trying to manipulate you. You deserve better.