[Jordan228]

How to trust someone again?
its so hard i cant trust the person i love because they broke my trust and lied to me, but we are still together and i still cant trust him at all

[healingme4me]

Learning to trust, is about your partners actions rebuilding over time, what was broken by a lie.

[healingme4me]

http://forums.psychcentral.com/new-m...ml#post3321711

Just spotted this.

I stand by what I posted about actions rebuild trust. I will add, sounds like he's on a slippery slope. I'd be lost too, this friendship of his crossed the line from being platonic to sexual at some point. And that's hard to trust that it's platonic, at this stage.

I'm going to sleep on this one, and perhaps with a little rest, can reply better. Was scrolling up, to log out....

[healingme4me]

It's a slippery slope, because it's his ex girlfriend! And going to her house, and lying about it, is completely unacceptable!

Dirty texts and 2 hour visits to an exes home, sounds sketchy to me.

Perhaps, you are having a tough time learning to trust, because he's not actually doing anything to change his behavior?

Ultimatums are not the solution, but putting the ball in his court, to meet your relationships needs is!

""I am feeling insecure and vulnerable right now. I'm out of my comfort zone about this friendship. What can you do, to help me feel reassured that you are devoted to me, and that I am your top priority?"" (that's one way to express it...)

I'm sure, others here, will have some sage advice