[julie234332]

Hi. I'm a college student and living in the same suite as one of my friends, leah, who i met last semester (we both transferred here last semester and met at a meeting). We have become close. I was going to my friends school an hour away to see her/visit her college. I asked leah if she wanted to come with me for the weekend, and originally she said yes, but then she said no because she wanted to go home to see her dad before he went away, which is understandable and i'm not mad at her for that. so i told her i got my ticket and i was leaving at 3pm on friday and i was excited to go. on sunday when i got back to school, i texted her asking what time she would be back and how her weekend was. she told me it was great and she doesn't want to come back and study chemistry. she did not ask me how my weekend was. i figured she'd ask me in person, but she still hadn't. i finally confronted her about it on the way to dinner. i said.. "thanks for asking me how my weekend was at syracuse". she said "ohh yeah how was it?".. and i said.. "you obviously either forgot or don't care since you haven't asked this whole time." and she was like.. "i was going to ask you at dinner". and i said "no i think you just forgot. or you obviously don't care". so then we ate together at dinner in silence and she still didn't ask about my weekend. and then we parted ways awkwardly after we finished eating, but we did not fight. all my other friends asked me how my weekend was, but her.

the truth is i had a fun this weekend visiting my friends and i'd do anything to go back. i feel that i have a true connection with them and i have known them since i was 8 years old. we also have more in common. another thing that bothers me about leah is that she can't really hold a conversation and she never has anything that interesting to say. she doesn't really talk about guys, etc. she's purely academic and it gets on my nerves.

am i wrong for feeling this way? am i being overly sensitive? please be honest. how do i cope with this?

[MeganMariah72]

I feel like many of us have been in your shoes. I just graduated from college actually and I've had different kinds of roommates throughout the years. One thing that I started to realize was that your roommate isn't necessarily there to be your best friend. When it comes down to it, he/she is ultimately going to be just your roommate...someone else who lives with you. Sometimes you do find a roommate who is going to become close with you, but they aren't all going to become that way. If she doesn't want to interact with you like a close friend would, then you should accept it and accept her the way she is.

However, since you said that you guys have become close, maybe there is something bothering her that is making her feel drawn back to communication and she doesn't know how to react. If so, maybe try asking her how she is and if everything is okay with her? If she says yes, then don't keep pushing her, let her open up when shes ready if thats the case.

Hope this helps!