[Mygirl]

Hi
I am new to this but looking for every piece of advice going!
My boyfriend of almost One year had cheated on me at the begining of our relationship, we where going tru a very bad time and constantly fighting! I was in a different country so we wer never spending time together. Even though thats no excuse and we where only together afew months, we get on so well now and know each other in side and out. I spend everyday with him and cant see myself without him! Hes changed and grown up a lot and peomises me every day hed never hurt me ever again.

Last night his friend from work text him and invited us both to his wedding, we just discovered that the girl he had slept with is also invited so he says we are not going now!! In one sense i think it is childish and he should face up to what hes done and we shoukd go? But then i do not want to be the silly girl whos forgiven him and it be awkward between us all, after all i am only girlfriend!!

What should i do? Im even thinking do i want to be this girl that cant go to occasions because if his stupid mistakes!! Should i even finish it all together?

Please help

[MeganMariah72]

my opinion: you still being with him is telling me that you guys are overcoming what has happened in the past (him cheating), which is a good thing! You say he has changed and matured which is also good.

However, I feel it sounds a bit weird that he does not want to go to the wedding now that the girl is "supposedly" going to be there. I mean I may be wrong, but all that stuff should be in the past now (for YOU and HIM) and this girl should not affect how you and your boyfriend live your lives. Its his friend's wedding and he doesn't want to go there because of this girl? It seems he is not even thinking about his friend and his friend's special day.

You are not a silly girl if you forgive someone, especially your boyfriend who has supposedly changed and matured for the better. If you are having doubts and can't seem to trust him, then maybe you should consider ending it or going to couples therapy (just a possibility).

One of the hardest things to do is regain trust, I know that. But if you agree to stay with this man, you need to learn to trust him, especially since he hasn't done it again and you say he has matured. Give him the benefit of the doubt.

Think about this: Does he really have a problem seeing that girl or do you have more of a problem?

If you fully trust and love him, it shouldn't matter if you guys see her there. Also, it should not matter to him if she is nothing to him now!

Hope this helps, stay strong!

[NWgirl2013]

I guess I would want to know why he can't go. The real reason. A more healthy response is for him to want to go, to be there with his marrying friend. No "fling" should dissuade him from that.
This 'indiscretion' should not hold any power in how he & you conduct yourselves.

Tell him you really want to go, that you want to go together, that it won't make you uncomfortable, if that is his reason, then get dolled up and look like ten million bucks, hold your proud head up, dance & enjoy!

After all, you did get the guy. Tell him you would be proud to be there with him.