[dduarteaf]

Ive Lived With My Girlfriend For About 6 Months,She Has A 4 Year Old Daugther.She Has Debts Liek Some Of Us,She Has A Car Payment,And Works AS Split Shift,From 6am to About 10 am And The Afternoon from 3pm to About 7-8pm,She Has A Lot Of Stress Accumulated,We Had Problems With Her Ex That We Both Had Little Discussions Here An There,I Was Obiously Mad At The Times And Said Stupid Thing To Her That Hurt Her And Deep Down In My Heart I Did Not Felt,She Told Me Plenty Of Times That She Was Mad And Stressed That She Couldnt Spend Time During The Week With Her Daughter,2 Days Ago She Got Home And I Knew Something Was Wrong With Her She Went Straight To Sleep,I Felt Very Bad,Cause I Know How Much She Loves Her Daughter And Im The Sensitive Type Of Guy,They Wne To Sleep And I Wnet To The Living Room To Sleep In The Couch,I Felt Stressed And Also Tought What Can I Do To Help Her,Ive Told Her Plenty Of Times To Get Another Job With out the long break in between So That She Can Spend Enough Time With Her Daugther,That Night I Left In My Car I Told Her I was going Out But Coming Back I Just Needed Some Air,i Came Back about An Hour Later,We Talked And She Obiously Tought Bad Of Me,(When I Get Mad Or pressured I Tend To Stay Quiet And Not Talk,And Just Leave For A Couple Of minutes)I Told Her How Much I Loved Her,That She Is A Strong Person And That Both Of Us Are Going To Get Trough This.Next Day She Didnt Go To Work,I Did,We Had Plans For The Weekend,Came Back She Wasnt At Home,She Said She Needed TIME And That She Was going To Her Moms House To Spend Time With Her And Her Daugther And To Think About What SHE Wanted,We Later Talked In Person And She Didnt Say Much,So I Went Home And Started To Clean And Was About To Do Laundry And She Told Me TELL ME WHEN U LEAVE,I Told Her DONT WORRY COME OVER I WONT SAY ANYTHING I UNDERSTAND U NEED TIME,IM CLEANING AND ABOUT TO DO LAUNDRY,she told me DONT WORRY NO MORE U DONT HAVE TO DO ANYTHING NOW JUST LEAVE GET YOUR THIMGS AND LEAVE,i told her THIS CANT END LIKE THIS I UNDERSTAND YOUR STRESS AND PROBLEMS BUT WE CAN GO TROUGH THIS I DONT WANNA LEAVE U ALONE she said IM NOT ALONE I HAVE MY DAUGHTER WITH ME i said YES U DO AND U ALSO HAVE ME THAT I LOVE U AND WANT THE BEST FOR US AS A FAMILY,it took me a couple of hours to get my stuff out it was hard for me to leave and to not be sleeping with her everynight and to come home and see her there and the plans that we had for the weekend,everything just went down tha drain,She Told Me THAT SHE NEEDE TIME AND WASNT GONNA GO BACK TO WORK SHE WAS GONNA ASK FOR HER 30 DAYS LEAVE OF ABSCENCE AND WAS GONNA GO TO ARIZONA WITH HER RELATIVES(we live in san diego ,ca)i asked her why all she told me was that SHE WAS TIRED OF EVERYTHING THE STRESS HER FAMILY OF EVERYTHING AND THAT SHE WANTED TO GO ALONE WITH HER DAUGHTER AND BE WITH HER AND WANTED TO LEAVE SO THAT SHE CAN THINK ABOUT WHAT SHE WANTED,i told her ILL LEAVE WITH HER CAUSE I LOVED HER SO MUCH,She Told Me That She Doesent See A Future With Me That All She Sees Is Her With Children(mine) And Not Beign Together.I Told Her That I Loved Her So Much And I Respect Her Decision,She Told Me That If We Are Meant For Each Other That We Will Get Back Toghether,I Told Her Plenty Of Times What Ive Had Done She Said That She loved Me And That Im A Great Person,That Im Not The Problem That She Is The Problem,She Also Said That Little By Little With Me When Getting Mad(Leaving To Catch Some Air)That She Lost Hope In Our Relationship.!!I Havent Talked To Her And Miss Her So Much,My Friend Told Me To Give Her Time But Its Hard For Me A Day Has Gone And I Feels Worthless..!!I Just Wanna Text Her Or Talk To Her,When I Left I Texted Her That I Had Left And That I Loved Her So Much.She Told Me T0o Leave Cause She Didnt Wanna Go To The House And She Her Daugther See Me Leave And Also Her.!!She Told Me That She Loved Me And That Im A Great Man But I Can Take That She Needs Time But Why To Arizona,I Wont Be Able To See Her Or Be With Her,I Just Want An Explanation From Her I Just Wanna Know If She Is Coming Back To Me.!!! PLEASE HELP ME..!!

[Travelinglady]

Hi! Welcome to Psych Central! It sounds to me like she has answered your questions the best she can. We can't say whether she will be back, but from what she said, it does sound like she is ready to move on. I'm sorry I can't tell you what you want to hear. Maybe some other people will respond.

[healingme4me]

Well, that sounds impulsive. Sorry she's up and taking her daughter and moving to another state. To figure out what she wants? Doesn't seem, like it's all about you and her, as a couple, clearly she has lots to sort out in her own mind. Just stinks that you are left with the emotional fall out of this.

I wonder, if the give her time statement, is less about give her time to want to work things out with you, but more time for her to come to her senses. ( I say this, because parents moving across state lines can be risky business, without some sort of legal approval)

Hope you are able to heal through your grieving process.

[dduarteaf]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

Well, that sounds impulsive. Sorry she's up and taking her daughter and moving to another state. To figure out what she wants? Doesn't seem, like it's all about you and her, as a couple, clearly she has lots to sort out in her own mind. Just stinks that you are left with the emotional fall out of this.

I wonder, if the give her time statement, is less about give her time to want to work things out with you, but more time for her to come to her senses. ( I say this, because parents moving across state lines can be risky business, without some sort of legal approval)

Hope you are able to heal through your grieving process.

She Said She Is Leaving With Her Realatives For A Couple Of Weeks And See What She Really Wants She Says She Feels Confused Ans As A Lot Of Stress And Depression,She Said She Needed Time To Think About What She Wants And If She Really Wants To Come Back.

[dduarteaf]

Originally Posted by PAYNE1

Hi! Welcome to Psych Central! It sounds to me like she has answered your questions the best she can. We can't say whether she will be back, but from what she said, it does sound like she is ready to move on. I'm sorry I can't tell you what you want to hear. Maybe some other people will respond.

Well We didnt Talk Much Today We Talked And She Told Me Thats She Just Needs Time And That She Is Gonna Get A Couple Of Weeks Of From Work And Spend Time With Her Daugther And Simply Think What She Wants,She Told Me To Not Worry About Anything She Just Needs Time And That She Is Gonna COme Back As Soon AS She Feels Ready,She Talks To Me And She Feels Sad,But Its Nice That She Laughed A Lil Bit And Liked What I Told Her About Our Future,Beign Together And Everything.

[dduarteaf]

I Talked To Her Today And She Felt Like She Just Did It Too Fast Like Left Very Quckly She Told Me Thats She Just Wanted To Be Alone Couple Of Days And Spend Time With Her Daughter And To Think What She Wants In Life,She Is The Manager Of Apartments And She Told Me She Is Tired Of That And That She Needs Time Off Of That And Also At Work That Her Schedule Is Killing Her,She Has Too Much Stress And I Know For A Fact She Is Very Bad Emotionally,And Also Dpressed,She Told Me Not To Worry And That She Just Needed Some Time To Think Straight And Think Without Having To Think Or Have Other Things In Her Mind.

[dduarteaf]

Ive Talked To Her And I feel As She Misses Me Adn That She Made A Quick Decision By Leaving,I Talked To Her And She Told Me That She Just Needed Time And That She Didnt Even Said Bye To Her Mom Nor Sisters,That She Just Left.She Told Me That She Was Gonna Take A Couple Of Weeks And That She Was Going To Be Back.That She Just Needs Time And Just Clear Her Mind Of Everything,Hope With This Someone Can Help Me And Tell Me What They Think.

[Travelinglady]

Well, she says she needs a couple of weeks. We can't say whether she will be ready after that, but at least she is trying to give you some sort of time frame.....

[dduarteaf]

her sister told me that she left with the father of her daughter to arizona to start a new life fresh,she wants hapiness for her daughter
and that she is looking for a job and apts,i talked to her and she seems to denie evertything she tells me who said that thats a lie im talking to you and if i was with someone i wouldnt talk to you,she also says that she needs 2 weeks so that she can just empty her head and get fresh air and that she will come back.! what do you think about this.?

I'd not contact her for two weeks and see if she contacted me.

If not, regardless of what you or I or anybody else thinks, there will be your answer.

Of course, thinking is one thing, and feeling is another ...

It hurts like @#$%! when someone gets dumped.

[dduarteaf]

i know it does she told me tiday weve talked and to give her time and that she was now thinking on staying and settling down i arizona,she told me that she missed me and loved me but that she was already there,she told me to that its as hard for her as it is for me and to talk to her in 2 days that she was gonna contact me