There's a great, big celebration

Aloha September,

I wish I wasn't so far from you either, and I think what is in order is a good tear jerker to watch. Thank be assertive and stop feeling like you're going to hurt someone else's feeling when you do this! Tell your ex-husband that he's being inconsiderate and down right rude to you as a person.

It has always helped me to pray alot before opening my mouth when there has to be something said that's difficult.
Pls do it for me, yourself, your ex, your kids sake and anyone you love. Leilee

You do, do ya? Just who might that be??

I've already talked to my estranged husband... who isn't all that estranged. HA! I didn't get much feedback. He just hung his head like a scolded school boy. There may be a small change for a small amount of time, but after 30+ years, I know better than to expect much.

He asked me last night if I wanted to go shoot pool with him... in a nasty little "titty" bar. Yeah right! I've never shot pool and I'm sure not good at watching half naked girls... with me at twice what I should weigh and in a wheel chair to boot!!! Besides, that's not my element. LOL

He did buy me a beautiful Beta Fighting Fish, thought! WoooooooHooooooooooooooo ... NOT. I also got a pint of my favorite ice cream. I suppose this is supposed to make up for forgetting about me and my needs. MEN!!!! No, I know they're not ALL like him! I just pick winners, that's all.

Somehow I'll find a way to be self-sufficient... if I can ever find the door!

wait a minute, Sept. Ok, well maybe after 30 years, one would hope that their husband would have a handle on likes/dislikes, but honestly? He asked you to spend time with him doing something that he likes to do (as opposed to excluding you from "his" environment), he bought you a fish that many consider beautiful (even if you don't), and remembered what kind of ice cream you like. He sounds like he is *trying*, and even if it doesn't come anywhere close to meeting your expectations, your reaction, at least here, doesn't acknowledge that. Why would he try even harder the next time if you don't appreciate his efforts?

I know... it's easy for me to say this from hundreds of miles away... but it sounds like your resentment is getting in the way of breaching the gap, and I don't want to see you further alienate yourself from him and your family if it's something you want to fix.

I mean this all in a kind way, so be gentle on me in your response, ok?

You cracked me up with "be gentle" but I guess it's not really funny.

Yes, the fish is beautiful. I like Betas. The ice cream was good... but he had neglected to tell me he'd bought it. As to remembering my favorite, it's his, too. LOL

Did I tell you I had asked for a couple of new frying pans because mine are trashed? Guess what he came home with? Cake pans! I don't need cake pans! I've got them coming out my ears! Ok... so today he bought me a couple of frying pans at Big Lots no less. LOL He asked if I wanted to go to the bar with him last night knowing FULL WELL I wouldn't be caught dead there!

Ok! Ok! So he's trying, but somehow it just doesn't make up for forgetting me at the important times. I promise to focus on the little things. That should make us both feel better, right?

Oh... and David called and asked if I would do face painting at the block party/Halloween party/Lucas' b-day party. If course I will! I had fears of not being invited because I thought they would prefer to have John and his kids there. They've done it to me before. No worries this year! I'm happy! See?

WOW!! You got away without me biting your head off!! Imagine that! LOL Just yankin' yer chain, Sweety!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{LMo}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Thank you!

block party????? face painting?????? i wannnnaaaaaa goooooooo

Let's go, then! Everyone's welcome!

sweeetie I know excatly how you feel.. When my ex makes plans to go somewhere with my daughter I get hurt because I cant go with him anymore to be with her..

Trsut me it hurts no matter what we do