Should I add her on facebook?

I met this really cool girl this weekend at an environmental conference at my college. I had been wanting to talk to her all weekend, and finally built up the courage to approach her. This is something that is always VERY hard for me to do, as I have confidence issues as well as experience social anxiety. So she seemed very happy to talk to me and we talked for a while about what we had done that day, which workshops we went to and such, and then about our family histories, and then music, then school, and so on. It was great. I couldn't believe such a cool and pretty girl was talking to me. We talked for a while actually and walked around for a bit. The whole time I was talking to her I was just thinking, pleasebemygirlfriendpleasebemygirlfriend. Of course that sounds a bit drastic, but I can think what I want in my head can't I?

So then with the nature of the event, and how many people were there, people kept approaching and talking to her, which made it hard for me to keep up my conversation with her. Eventually I felt like I was imposing too much by standing around her, while other people were trying to talk to her (sometimes they just interrupted our conversation to talk to her, which I found to be a bit rude honestly), so in an effort to not come across as clingy, I just told her it was nice to meet her, and left. And that was about it really, I never really got another chance to talk to her, just a "oh hey have a safe trip back!" in passing. She was going back home from this conference which was at my school. The thing on my mind is, was that it? Was this just a short instance of friendship? To become nothing more? I got her name and even found her on facebook (I tried not to, believe me I tried, but the temptation to just search was so simple and tempting!). So right now I am very conflicted on if I should add/message her or not. I fear that would come across as weird and creepy. But then again, I really do hope I can talk to her again... :/

I say do it - nothing ventured nothing gained!

I think you should send her a friend request too. It sounds like you had a nice conversation, enjoyed by both of you. There's nothing weird or creepy about a simple message saying you enjoyed meeting her

To me it wouldn't seem creepy if someone I met earlier added me on facebook. A short message would be nice though. You could tell her you enjoyed talking to her about this and that and thought it would be nice to keep in touch. Good luck

I say sent her an invitation.

thanks for the support guys! I feel better about this now I guess I won't be a creep after all. But how do I explain how I found her without sounding like a stalker? Pretty much I just went to the facebook events page of the event and was just browsing under people who attended and then found her. That's about it. I feel I should tell her though so it doesn't sound like I was stalking her like a creep or something. Maybe I am just overthinking this too much though

There's nothing wrong with adding her! And way to go conquering your anxiety and talking to her. I'll cross my fingers for you!

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Just tell her you wanted to talk to her again. You don't need to explain how you found it. Its common for people who meet at conferences etc to add people on facebook. ;D Relax.

awww thanks guys

You should ask her out for coffee next conversation you have with her

Talking with her really was great. Turns out she has polish ancestry just like me, so we talked about that, and our family histories. She is into science like I am, and also bluegrass music, which we talked about for a bit. The fact that those are were her interests made me smile. It seriously felt amazing talking to her, and I couldn't help but smile at how nice she was. She even asked if I wanted to sit by her. I have a bit habit of blowing things out of proportion and daydreaming to much about things that were probably just the person being polite and nothing more, but hey, I'm a guy. We dream.

Just read your thread. I wanted to say just go for it. But now I see that you have, yes? Good luck to you

ughh... maybe I should have just never bothered with this... She accepted my friend request but never replied to my message. At first I noticed it went to her "other" inbox, and I was worried she might not see that one. So I resent the same message to her regular inbox, which just looks like I sent her the same message twice, so now it just looks weird. Still no reply. I don't get why she wouldn't reply. Does she just not see it? Her activity is showing in the news feed. I always get myself into these messes. I become totally captivated by a girl, and she is all I think about, I add her on facebook, and she ignores me. It ALWAYS ends in depression. Each and every time. I'm wondering if this will even be worth it. What I don't get about these situations is why they always seem happy to talk to me in person, then online, like I'm just a lost memory to them. Maybe she is just busy on facebook? Says she has 900 friends. That only plays into my insecurity, that I'm just one guy under that many people. I'll give it another day or so, but I'm not putting myself through this whole mess again. I'll have to forget her.

I'm sorry you're feeling upset. I know that when I get messages from time to time, I'm slow to reply... maybe she's the same? And you shouldn't feel bad, you at least took the first step and contacted her. It may have gnawed at you and been worse had you done nothing.

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Yeah thanks, good advice. I don't regret it, I mean. I thought she was really special, and I'm glad I reached out to her online. If not, then yeah, that would have been it, and I would have regretted never even trying to get in touch with her. No regrets, I'm happy I messaged her, and I just need to leave it at that I suppose. I'm definitely not about to wait on her though. I can't put myself through that mess again. I had another girl I liked on facebook, same situation, same exact situation. It last over a year. Just constant disappointment everytime I got on facebook. not happening again.