[Intuition]

Well not exactly.

Here's the short version:
Our relationship started very fast. Too fast for sure.
But I'm not sure that this is the reason why we broke up.
We met and we clicked but he showed right away reluctance to be in a relationship (the first day).
I hadn't in mind a relationship so I was good.
But then he started talking marriage. I figured he felt alone, depressed or whatever and didn't really pay too much attention.
I left for a week. He wrote that he missed me a lot but it seemed to annoy him.
When I came back he wanted me to meet his family.
It was a nightmare. He totally depends on his mum and she hates any competition.
From then on he tried to get rid of me but every time I moved away he came after me. He said he loved and hated me at the same time.
????
Then he grew distant which was easy because for now we leave 300 miles apart. He stopped talking about moving.

Last time we spoke he wanted to see me. I agreed but I could feel that his mind was elsewhere.

He provoked a hideous fight and he broke up 5 days later.

A friend of mine says that he needs time but I'm tempted to think that he never cared in the first place.

I wrote an answer to his break-up letter. No answer.
I wrote one week later to say that I was moving on (new job, new city), no answer.

He's still in my FB contacts. What should I do?
I get very conflicting advice from "Give him time" to "ditch the jerk".
At times I was convinced he loved me, at times I was convinced of the opposite.

Maybe he's just trying to keep me on the back-burner or maybe he doesn't want to be the jerk who deletes me from his contacts.
I have no idea.

He wanted to stay in touch but he plays dead. Why? I never begged him to take me back, didn't profess my undying love etc... I made it easy.
It doesn't make sense.

[gayleggg]

This guy has big issues. Run the opposite way. Sorry to be blunt but there is not an easy way to say it.

[catsrhelm]

I agree with gaylegg. You don't need a jerk like that.

[Intuition]

Thanks. I'm starting to agree.

I'm thinking that the "ditch the jerk" idea is the way to go. On top of that it sounds like, from your description it was never real deep, just dating to marriage talk in 0 seconds, kind of thing and you never really had a chance to have a real relationship. That's my take on that part.

As for the FB? if you're moving on, and there's no closure issues on your part, there is no reason to keep someone as a contact/friend that isn't even responding anyway. If my interpretations of the warning signs are correct, this can very easily lead to being stalked by this person and "watched". Just seems to fit the profile.

Don't worry about this guy. You can do much better.

[~Christina]

Just go about living your life , forget about him delete him/remove him from social media crap and your phine . Be glad you didn't waste more time with him.

Someone better is out there.

[Intuition]

Yes, I have the feeling I was only a rebound. He lied to me about how long ago his last relationship was. Especially towards the end he even wanted to give me a dress from his ex. I told him I'd rather burn in hell. I felt like in Hitchcock's Vertigo.
If I had known that he was still in touch with her one month earlier I would never have started anything.

Yesterday i had a great chat with another guy on my wall. We have the same passion and it was amicable but enthusiastic. The next day my ex didn't go on facebook the whole evening. The next day I noticed on his wall a pic saying "Eat me" (pun in a restaurant but with intended sexual connotation). It's not his style. His mum is in his contacts. And since that's how he communicates, I conclude that he is pissed.
Good. Now he knows how it feels.
I don't give a rat's *** if he stalks me. He hardly publishes anything so I'm not that tempted. It's probably driving him crazy more than me. But still.