[jannew]

hi all
re/on: the making of a molester..what? explaining below

(​the idea of so-truly scares me-for i thought that i could occur the be of such a person-acr​oss life a couple of times)

hi (addressed to someone elsewhere)

i heard of your interview on xx-thank you for your sharings.

across some 20 years-i have had, what i feel has been a truly unusual scarey "flirt with" about me-in that i'd been attracted

to younger people. and i truly have been accident proned of having the flirt with-stick around-of course, when it's come to

being attracted to what resulted as boys-of which the last a few weeks ago-there was a fall out-that i still really hurt of-because of HIS deceit.

i hadn't done anything with him (and wouldn't have)..but the posture of his being of legal age person-of percieve at least 16, because he drove to a workplace we had at the time shared, and that we worked of-where his aunt assist with our having assignments, turns out to be..

that from learning about his real age of 14 through the source of his parent, that he's estimated as a high-school drop out, of not starting year 10 ('tell of so was this young person was working with us from bottom of august through september 2013-and he had mentioned of himself having worked prior-per another business elsewhere)-that the boy is taking a chance at being a travisty to himself, his parent, the firm-and his aunt-for being repetitive? of commiting the crime of not being legal/fraudulence. (what seems so stupid about all of this-is his parent knows/knew about the working and driving!-not restraining him from so..)
he might be an at-risk youth-at the deepest..

when i had let him know about the attraction, he absented-and i got scared from confuse..
though so-i'm greater in anger while simultaneously confused-i'm truly more afraid of that happening again (another attraction) elsewhere-even though i know i would never act out with a child..i'm just really embarrassed, and angry at the deceive-the most.

i really feel that what i went through-could happen to anyone. it's been just a blindspot of and injury in my psyche, and my rage-kept in check that wants to have him turned in (and people have suggested that i do turn him in)

and while i sense that that would be one effective wayward to

have lesson occur-another part of me-wants to give him a better teachable moment-the one that would have me meet him again to acknowledge that i know his real age-and that i get why he's posturing to be someone he's not-a legal person-for his get up to this posture-he's ashamed of himself/has to

compensate of this behave-to survive of life somewhere else?
anyway i'm looking for supports that can help me heal of my accident over fixation of this young person-especially in that-this young person is the same age by group range of kids that i work with.

by the way-i'm a education coach-looking foward to obtaining a few licenses/certifications up-coming.

i'm so greatful for your correspondence-true experience gets the greatest hi 5's

thank you so very much


janne

[unlockingsanity]

I really am not sure what you are actually saying, so I apologize if I'm reading your post wrong.

Are you saying that you're in your 20's and hitting on a 14 year old?

Are you saying you're attracted to underage people or just people who are younger than you?

Are you saying you want to act on these feelings AND you are an educational coach?

You do realize this is a criminal offense, if you were to act on these feelings, correct?

[Rive.]

I think, as a rule, it would be best to steer clear of people so much younger in the future. As you got to appreciate, you can never truly know someone's age as they could appear older and/or deceive people that they are older - as you experienced here. Unless you check their ID from the outset, but how realistic is that?

I know you said nothing happened and you wouldn't have done anything but keeping on with the relationship could land you in all kinds of (legal/moral) troubles. Furthermore, it is doubtful whether you could really know *why* he is posturing to be something he is not, as you say. I doubt you could use this as a teachable moment for him - seeing his parents/relatives seem to turn a blind eye (unless I misunderstood?) & he seems happy to continue doing so.

We don't know his circumstances but if he is working/driving when he is not of legal age, yes he is deceiving people and prob ought to be reported to the proper authorities. But again, as for you, best to steer clear of such relationships with young(er) folk.

[jannew]

Originally Posted by Rive.

I think, as a rule, it would be best to steer clear of people so much younger in the future. As you got to appreciate, you can never truly know someone's age as they could appear older and/or deceive people that they are older - as you experienced here. Unless you check their ID from the outset, but how realistic is that?

I know you said nothing happened and you wouldn't have done anything but keeping on with the relationship could land you in all kinds of (legal/moral) troubles. Furthermore, it is doubtful whether you could really know *why* he is posturing to be something he is not, as you say. I doubt you could use this as a teachable moment for him - seeing his parents/relatives seem to turn a blind eye (unless I misunderstood?) & he seems happy to continue doing so.

We don't know his circumstances but if he is working/driving when he is not of legal age, yes he is deceiving people and prob ought to be reported to the proper authorities. But again, as for you, best to steer clear of such relationships with young(er) folk.

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thank you for your truly clear in point correspondence
and yeah-i'd never happen again

j