[Buddy17]

you people can see my history in last few threads. let me make a short note here:

my Bf says that " i will be true as much as i can .if you have trust just be with me forever otherwise let me live alone with my friends"
How can i believe him after he cheated me more. i am miserable now. still i thinks that he is having affair in his previous office. he says that " i will never talk with any girls after i did one mistake"
My doubt is
1.he had one mobile without my knowledge. but he stated that mobile is one of his roommates mobile.
2.he gave one number that belongs to her colleagues(girl) but she never picks my call . even she don't know that is my number. how she think that i might call her(may be he told her )
3.that number which my bf given is switched off after i asked why she didn't pick my calls to my bf
4.i know her personal number and i got her number from his office. but her personal number and another number which given by my bf(said that her another number)continuously going text and calling every time. i tracked by customer care.
if both number is that girl number why she chating continuously in her own number. it might be my boy friend number right????
5.he using so abusive word to me. if i asked to scold her he wont because she is innocent girl he says. innocent girl will never have affairs with another's husband .,. right??
6.my bf brother told me "that girl called his number and asked my husband to call" but he scolded her .

above all is my doubts. am i doubting unnecessarily. can i trust him to make him feel better? suggest me how to handle if any one enters relationship. can i be quite? just let him to do this things and can i wait for him???

he says that he will be true if i have trust on him.. so i am insisting him to have this affairs. i ma getting fear please help me how to handle this situation..

[lightinthesky]

It's a hard one. I cheated once when I was young and stupid and it was the biggest mistake in my life. I never felt as bad as I felt back then because I nearly lost someone I love. My bf forgave me but he never forgot it. It was bothering him our entire relationship, I changed my friends and job and wasn't going out so he wouldn't be worried about anything.. it got better with years, but one day I found out that he cheated on me with some girl from work, they had dates and kisses no sex but still.. when I asked him why he did it he said it was a pay back. What I want to tell you is that some people truly make mistakes and I would never hurt my bf again that way, but if you make a decision to forgive him then FORGIVE AND FORGET don't remind him and yourself, if you feel like it was a mistake and he loves you, forget it and leave it in the past, never talk about it - otherwise you will ruin your relationship.
Good luck

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[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by Buddy17

he says that he will be true if i have trust on him.. so i am insisting him to have this affairs. i ma getting fear please help me how to handle this situation..

Love that expression!! So not trusting him, caused the affair. Once, they cheat, they don't realize how suspect all their actions and inactions have become. They breach trust, then put(or try to) place burden of shame on you. Just don't accept it, like you apparently are not. Things can be rebuilt, but they will never be the same.

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[Elektra_]

we always believe in hat sentence once a cheater always a cheater. and even if he wont u will be always wondering so yeah here is no point in there. if i were u i would break up. tc

[lightinthesky]

nobody can decide for you, nobody can tell you if he will cheat again or not, you have all rights not to forgive. But I believe in second chances and I am glad I had mine, I know for myself I would never do it again, but I can't speak for anyone else. The only thing is that if you decide to forgive then you gonna have to forget it too and never let it stand between you too, you going to have to leave it in the past once and for all, so better think first if you can do it. xxx

[Buddy17]

thank you all your kind replies. i am trying to forgot it. but sometimes my memories irritates him and pushing my relationship into critical situation. sometime he says that " please forgive me and forgot my past. sure i will not do it anymore. i will be true as much as i can. what i would need is please don't remind me the past and i will make you feel our life as heaven""
how can i forgot that moments which the day he cheated me because of one unknown person. i have been in love with him since 2005. nearly 8 years.. did i get bore to him sometimes? so will i get bore anymore??? is it possible him to cheat me anymore if i remind his past still?
he says " don't pointing my mistake anymore. if you do it so sure i will try to search the girl who cares more than you" but he never said to break up with me. just he had crush on that girl ,now he analyzed his mistake and still he feels for cheated me.. so what i should now???